(Closed) ugh…trying to meet our minimum

posted 8 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

I would just absorb the extra cost…

Post # 4
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

Can’t you just make the meals more expensive, ie upgrade to fancier food, add an appitizer or two upgrade the liquor shelf, add in an additional dessert? I would air more on the side of luxury than packing the stands. Who wants to spend their wedding day with random people they don’t even know that well?

Post # 5
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2011

I would also just absorb the extra cost. If there are other people that you left out that you would like to attend, I would consider those before acquaintances.

Post # 7
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

i agree with previous posters.. find another way to deal with cost issue but dnt jus invite randoms

Post # 8
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

We’re eating our costs, too. But we’re going to use some of the money to upgrade things, mostly at the bar. 🙂

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

I would just stick with the guests you already have and not add more people.  Who knows maybe at the end you might meet that minimum or close to it. 

Post # 10
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

We ran across the same problem.  We had a dollar minimum so we invited a few people that my husband was friends with and for the others we added a few more extras to make up the difference.  We ended up getting a bit of money back in the end.

Post # 11
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Blushing bee

One thing to consider is that if you send out more invitations at a later date, it may become obvious to those people that they were B-listers, which could cause some hurt feelings.  I agree with just absorbing the cost.  Extra guests can mean extra tables, centerpieces, chairs, etc.  Even if there’s no extra cost beyond dinner, I think it’s a lot more fun to spend your wedding day with people who are actually close to you.

Post # 12
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Newbee

I would probably just absorb the cost, enjoy celebrating with all the people you actually know and love being around, and let it go especially since you were already planning on paying that amount. Will they let you upgrade anything like add an additional course or have a more complete bar? Maybe that would make you feel a little better about it. 

Post # 13
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

I agree that you can use your vendors as part of your count.  Not sure if you or your finance have siblings but you could invite a few of your siblings good friends if you end up missing the minimum.

Post # 14
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

We were in this boat. We were paying for 155 plates of food, but ended up with 125 people at the wedding. I looked at the “minimum” price simply as adding a few bucks to everyone’s plate. I felt very strongly about having people I didn’t care about at my wedding–not gonna happen. Although that week, we did allow a couple extra people who called and said, “hey can I bring so-and-so?” and we were like, “yeah sure whatevz”. Like his cousin wanted to bring his new girlfriend. I’m anti-acquaintances

Post # 15
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

Definitely dont invite the randoms!

Post # 16
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

Depends how “random” they are. If you have a couple of fun acquantainces that you didn’t originally invite, but you know they would be rocking the dance floor and having a great time with everyone, I don’t seen the harm in that. 

However, I would worry about inviting them so late…agree that they may feel like B-listers.

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