Post # 1
So FI and I are crunching the numbers of our guest list and the responses we’ve gotten so far and the responses we have yet to get…and we’re afraid we’re not going to meet our minimum of 175. Irregardless, we will have to pay for 175 people, and FI is adamant about having exactly 175 – which means he’s now thinking of inviting random people – like acquaintances to the wedding. I, however, would rather eat some of the cost than just invite random people I care nothing about to the wedding. So my question is, what would you do, invite essentially strangers or come up a little short and still pay for the full head count?
Post # 3
I would just absorb the extra cost…
Post # 4
Can’t you just make the meals more expensive, ie upgrade to fancier food, add an appitizer or two upgrade the liquor shelf, add in an additional dessert? I would air more on the side of luxury than packing the stands. Who wants to spend their wedding day with random people they don’t even know that well?
Post # 5
I would also just absorb the extra cost. If there are other people that you left out that you would like to attend, I would consider those before acquaintances.
Post # 6
@crayfish: I don’t think our venue would give us any other wiggle room only because they already knocked off about $3-4k from the overall cost because of the stigma surrounding the date. We have 5 vendors that I’m going to see if our venue will let us give them the same meal options as the guests if we do come up short since, well I figure we’re paying for 175 to eat, it shouldn’t matter if 5 of those are vendors right?!
Post # 7
i agree with previous posters.. find another way to deal with cost issue but dnt jus invite randoms
Post # 8
We’re eating our costs, too. But we’re going to use some of the money to upgrade things, mostly at the bar. 🙂
Post # 9
I would just stick with the guests you already have and not add more people. Who knows maybe at the end you might meet that minimum or close to it.
Post # 10
We ran across the same problem. We had a dollar minimum so we invited a few people that my husband was friends with and for the others we added a few more extras to make up the difference. We ended up getting a bit of money back in the end.
Post # 11
One thing to consider is that if you send out more invitations at a later date, it may become obvious to those people that they were B-listers, which could cause some hurt feelings. I agree with just absorbing the cost. Extra guests can mean extra tables, centerpieces, chairs, etc. Even if there’s no extra cost beyond dinner, I think it’s a lot more fun to spend your wedding day with people who are actually close to you.
Post # 12
I would probably just absorb the cost, enjoy celebrating with all the people you actually know and love being around, and let it go especially since you were already planning on paying that amount. Will they let you upgrade anything like add an additional course or have a more complete bar? Maybe that would make you feel a little better about it.
Post # 13
I agree that you can use your vendors as part of your count. Not sure if you or your finance have siblings but you could invite a few of your siblings good friends if you end up missing the minimum.
Post # 14
We were in this boat. We were paying for 155 plates of food, but ended up with 125 people at the wedding. I looked at the “minimum” price simply as adding a few bucks to everyone’s plate. I felt very strongly about having people I didn’t care about at my wedding–not gonna happen. Although that week, we did allow a couple extra people who called and said, “hey can I bring so-and-so?” and we were like, “yeah sure whatevz”. Like his cousin wanted to bring his new girlfriend. I’m anti-acquaintances
Post # 15
Definitely dont invite the randoms!
Post # 16
Depends how “random” they are. If you have a couple of fun acquantainces that you didn’t originally invite, but you know they would be rocking the dance floor and having a great time with everyone, I don’t seen the harm in that.
However, I would worry about inviting them so late…agree that they may feel like B-listers.