ugly curtains?

posted 2 years ago in Home
Post # 2
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1987 posts
Buzzing bee

Ugh-that sucks. Maybe you can tell her they were involved in a terrible accident in the washing machine and they couldn’t be saved. Why people don’t listen to others’ wishes is beyond me. I would not feel obligated to hang them up but being the passive person I am towards my MIL, I’d come up with some story as to what happened to them. 

  • This reply was modified 2 years ago by  MrsYokiman.
Post # 3
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3756 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

I’d shove them in a drawer and never say another word about it. 

Post # 4
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: January 2050

melissamaria:  When you say she noticed you had no curtains, you don’t mean there’s nothing there, right? Like, are there blinds? Assuming there are blinds, I’d just put the curtain in the linen closet — how likely is it that she’s going to investigate your bedroom next time she comes over? If there aren’t any blinds though, I’d put up the curtains!

Post # 5
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

People are under no obligation to decorate their home with gifts chosen by others- relatives or not. Your home is your refuge, not hers. Choose the curtains you want.

You should not feel one iota of guilt about not hanging them. You declined her offer. She ignored that and bought something you don’t like.

The next time you do go to visit where she lives, take the curtains back to the flea market and see if you can get a refund or exchange them for something else. If not, no skin off your teeth.

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

melissamaria:  how often does she come to visit? If she only comes by very occasionally, i would probably just hang them when she comes to visit. 

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012 - Southern California

Can you tell her you “exchanged” the ones she got you for your IKEA ones?

I know my MIL would totally notice something like this so I would probably make up something like MrsYokiman suggested. 

Post # 9
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177 posts
Blushing bee

I would but the IKEA curtains and tell your MIL you exchanged her curtains for those if she asks. 

My fiance’s mom bought us a comforter for our guest room that I didn’t care for when we first moved into our house. I put it in the closet right after she left and bought a duvet that I liked. I’m a picky person and don’t want other people with completely different styles trying to decorate for me. She may have been trying to be nice, but I was just annoyed! She also tried to force us into buying a bedroom set that we didn’t like for the guest room, so she would have a place to stay. She didn’t even care what we thought!

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

melissamaria:  I don’t think you have to hang them! Did you use all the gifts you got from your wedding (I mean the non-registry ones)? We definitely returned the things that didn’t match our style. 

We did get a piece of art (my great-aunt is an artist and she gifted us one of her paintings) that is very nice but not my style. My mom keeps asking us when we are going to put it up, and I just keep telling her we don’t have a place for it right now but might in the future. I mean, it could maybe go in a gallery wall somewhere in a future house?

Can you let your MIL know that they don’t work in your current room but you’re saving them for another room in the future? Maybe she will forget about them by then. 🙂

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