ugly engagement ring?

posted 3 years ago in Rings
Post # 2
8589 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2013

Ok..this is a sticky situation..what about talking with his mom?..maybe she could understand better and explain this to your boyfriend…also I think you should have it reset if thats what you is an heirloom and it still will be even if you change the can still pass it down to your children or grandchildren. He should want you to be happy..and you deserve to love your ring!  I think it would be even more sentimental if you get a new setting…heirloom diamonds in a new ring just for you!..its the best of both worlds

Post # 3
7281 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast

If he is emotionally attached to this family heirloom and you reject it, I would expect him to be pretty hurt. Is it worth that hurt? You could always wear the heirloom ring during the engagement, pick out a fabulous wedding band of your choice, and then only wear your wedding band from your wedding day forward.

Post # 4
244 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2014

Squeeks:  I think you need to have an honest discussion with him and pick out a new ring. It isn’t fair to you to wear a ring you hate for your entire life, and it isn’t fair to him if you completly change a family heirloom. I guess you just have to come to a comprimise, and the best comprimise i think would be to get a different ring.. Good luck!

Post # 5
905 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

Can your rhodium ip the ring an make it white gold?

Post # 6
288 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

Um hello! Rhodium dip?! Lol. Take it to the jeweler and see if it’s doable. I am sure it is. You’ll preserve the originality of the heirloom and still make it your own 😉 good luck! 

Post # 7
4411 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

I would suggest having it rhodium plated.  The only thing is, you will have to have it redone more often than someone with a white gold ring. The reason is, the yellow gold will REALLY show when the rhodium starts to wear off.  Some jewelers will not rhodium plate yellow gold, because of the reason I mentioned, and because it is considered somewhat dishonest in the jewelry industry. 

I am a little confused.  Did he say the ring would need the stones reset? What does he mean by that? If the stones need to be reset, why is he so against having them reset into another setting. 

Another option… If the ring setting is fairly small, you could do a stacking thing, where you get some white gold rings to go with it.  

Post # 8
517 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2015

I agree… just dip it! That way you will have the color you want without changing the heirloom peice too much.

Post # 9
1926 posts
Buzzing bee

+1 for dipping it. I think that’s all white gold is anyway.

Post # 10
5697 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

Yup, dip it… dip it goooooddd

Sorry, couldn’t help myself. lol

Post # 11
951 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2014


Squeeks:  If dipping isn’t an option, what about recreating the setting in white gold, reset the stones in that and then if there’s enough yellow gold, melt it down to create your fiance’s wedding band?

Post # 12
2649 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

Squeeks:  So the fact that he and his family are offering you a treasured family heirloom with great sentimental value mean nothing? The priority here is your style preference?

Either accept it and treasure it or refuse it outright. 

Post # 13
1676 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2015

agreed with the dipping – it’s a compromise?

Post # 15
9859 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2014

Squeeks:  my friend had her Grandmother’s ring dipped for the same reason, she loved the ring and wanted it as her e-ring but hated the yellow gold. 

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