Post # 1
My FI went ring shopping (without me ) and picked out his wedding band. I realize it’s his ring and he has to wear it, but I really don’t like it. He picked out my rings and while they are lovely, they are not what I would have picked out. So, do I just purchase his ring and be happy?
Post # 2
Yup! I bet there are lots of wedding decisions that you’re making that he might not agree with. I’d just give him the ring he wants.
Post # 3
I’m all for the guy getting a ring that he likes no matter how ugly I think it is, but I’d be pretty pissed if he actually went to the store and picked it without me even being there.
I wouldn’t start WWIII with him or make him pick out another, but I’d let him know if you were disappointed that you couldn’t be there with him.
Post # 4
Hm.. let my FH pick out his rings. He actually picked out two.. one for home and one for work. I didn’t care what he picked out as long as it fit and he liked it.
Post # 5
Why does he have the say in all the rings? He chose your wedding band too?
Post # 6
Sounds like this isn’t 100% about his ring, there’s still hard feelings about not getting the rings you wanted. If there’s any disappointment or bitterness about your rings, I think you should be kind and honest and truthful about it. Doing so will make you happier about the “ugly” wedding band you are buying him.
Whatever you do, don’t use this as an opportunity to return the favour and get a lovely band he doesn’t want.
Post # 7
secondtimemrs.: I would have let my husband choose whatever ring he wanted, assuming it was within budget. HE has to wear it.
Post # 8
secondtimemrs.: Why did he choose all the rings? Granted, I did not pick out my e-ring specifically (he had ideas though) but I definitely chose my own band as he did his.
Furthermore, if he picked it out, it’s his and you don’t like it, why are you paying for it?
Post # 9
It’s his ring. Not yours. He will be wearing it for the rest of his life, and he’s entitled to find something that *he* likes. You liking it isn’t a requirement.
Post # 10
- Wedding: Disneyland - January 2016
How often are you really going to be staring at his ring anyway? I say let him have it, he’s the one who has to wear it and if he likes it then that’s what matters 🙂 My SO is letting me choose his ring, he’s just picked out a few designs, showing me his style and what he likes, and told me to surprise him (it can be any of those he chose or something else entirely that I find). But I realize that’s not all that common.
Post # 11
TheGridMonster: +100 I completely agree. Also, I LOVE LOVE LOVE your avatar picture, I can’t stop laughing everytime I see it!