Post # 1
And they’ve already bought them! Well, two people havent paid me back yet, so technically those two shouldn’t have a problem if I change….
This is what it was:
And I want to change it to something more like this:
They have this in purple, which is our wedding color, but the purple one is all cototn and I think that is less formal.
My wedding away, do you think it’s wrong for me to change???
Post # 3
Can they be returned? Has anyone gotten alterations yet? It doesn’t matter – only a slight inconvenience for everyone as long as they can get their money back. If you want to change that badly and they can’t be returned, you should pay for the new dresses.
Post # 4
The ebay one won’t come up for me. Is there anyway to incorporate purple into the dress you already bought. A tie around the waist or pashmina or . . . so they don’t have to worry about exchange but will still incorporate purple
Post # 5
I’m pretty sure they could be returned, no alterations have been done yet. Only two of the girls actually paid my mom and I back, so their dresses are the ones I’m worried about.
As for the purple, I wanted to do all purple bouquets. I think it’s the style that I’m torn on…
Post # 6
Unless you are going to buy back their dresses and resell them yourself, you can’t ask them to buy a second dress. Re-selling BM dresses (even if they are unworn) is always done at a loss- nobody pays full price for a re-sold dress.
So unless they are within the return window and you’re doing the returning- I’d say it would be REALLY inappropriate to ask them to purchase a second dress.
Post # 7
If they can’t be returned then I don’t think you should pick another dress. There is no way they could sell them for anything close to full price.
Post # 8
if they can be returned i think it’s fine. if not, i don’t think it’s fair to ask them to buy two dresses.
Post # 9
If they can be returned thats fine, otherwise if you want to change you should buy the dresses back from the bridesmaids and take the financial loss for changing them yourself.
Post # 10
I agree with what’s already been said. In fact, I’ll say, even if the dresses can be returned, I think you should be the one to collect them and go through the trouble of returning them. If they can’t be returned, I think you should pay your BMs back, and try to sell the dresses yourself. (From the sounds of it, you wanted them to sell them on WB. But that is an inconvenience to them. And Rosy’s right, they wouldn’t get full price.)
It’s your wedding. If you changed your mind on the dresses, it shouldn’t be a problem to change the dresses, as long as you pay for whatever the extra expenses would be, if any. It certainly wouldn’t be fair to ask them to pay for more than one dress. (But I’m not sure that you were implying that you would.)
Post # 11
I think its unfair to change the dress after they’ve purchased it. It’s an inconvenience to your BMs no matter how you slice it 🙂
Post # 12
- Wedding: June 2010 - Ceremony - First United Methodist Church; Reception - My parents' house!
I don’t think you should expect them to get new dresses. Just find a way to work with the original ones
Post # 13
I agree with what’s already been said. In fact, I’ll say, even if the dresses can be returned, I think you should be the one to collect them and go through the trouble of returning them. If they can’t be returned, I think you should pay your BMs back, and try to sell the dresses yourself.
I agree with this!
Post # 14
@rosychicklet took the word outta my mouth. Changing your mind now WILL result in a financial loss. That loss has gotta be YOUR responsibility, or you’re treading of bridezilla’s stomping grounds!
Post # 15
Also, is there any other expense they might have already incurred, such as shoes, undergarments, jewelry that wouldn’t go with the new dress? If so, you might want to be flexible on those things, or check to see if there are any problems there.
Post # 16
I don’t think you should ask the girls to buy another dress after they already bought them.