- 3 years ago
- Wedding: October 2013
We’ll have about 70-85 guests (final days of RSVP window!) at our wedding. Because the space can accommodate up to 120, we’re seating 8 per table rather than the maximum of 10 because there is no need to pack them in, so to speak.
FH and I will be at a sweetheart table. There is no bridal party, and no “head table.” I’d like to seat my parents separately because they are divorced and both re-married, and have invited a few friends of their own. So far, family tables look something like this:
- Mom, stepdad, 5-7 of their friends (7-9 people total)
- Dad, stepmom, dad’s MIL, 3 of their friends (6 people total)
FH’s family table:
- FH’s parents, FH’s aunt, FH’s 2 cousins and their spouses (7 people total)
FH is an only child, but I have a brother who is married and lives with his in-laws. Would like to seat the four of them together because they usually come as a “package deal,” lol, and if possible would like for them to be among the rest of the family so that they don’t feel slighted.
But because the other 3 tables with family are already at 6-9 guests each, the only option is to put them at Dad’s table and make it 10. I suppose seating them with Dad and not Mom could make Mom feel jealous or a little hurt, but she’s already got a full table of friends, and it’s only for dinner (we’ll have a cocktail hour also), so hopefully that won’t be a big deal. For the record, everyone in this group is generally quite civil and adult at family functions. Only thing is, there is a bit of bad blood between my brother’s family and the rest of us, although no one ever talks their issues through with one another, so at any given gathering it is guaranteed that someone will be offended but impossible to predict who or why, lol.
What would be less awkward in your view — seating 10 people at one table in order to fit all of the family while the rest of the reception has 7-8 per table and risking making my mother feel snubbed, or seating my brother’s family at a fourth table and mixing them in with our friends and risking making my brother’s family feel snubbed?
Ah, the joy of blended families!