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Yeah, so this is something I always wanted to know but feels a bit awkward saying it or writing it. hehe
When having sex, do you like it in the back door... uhh aka the ass?
I don't but was wondering what percentage of us in the hive do.
I say no. no..no.no. It hurt me SO bad. It just doesn't turn me on at all. I know it does to some people-most of my friend in fact, but it is just NOT for me. I have tried it and it just feels so awkward/unnatural to me.
I haven't had the guts to try it even though the hubby has been begging for a good 6 months now :/
Well, I chose 'other'. I've done it, wouldn't be opposed to doing it again, but do I seek it out- No.
It isn't something I love, and FI isn't really into it, so we don't.
But if he enjoyed it more, I would be fine with it. Not every sex act needs to be my favorite to make it into the repertoire. I have found, though, that it is terrible if you don't spend a ton of time in, ahem, prep work. It takes a lot of gentle work to get your muscles back there to relax. And that is work your sex partner has to be committed to, I'm not talking kegels. You CAN NOT go 0 to 60. Most men who watch porn seem to think you can, but it ISN'T TRUE.
Just a public service announcement on that. 
Uh never tried it and honestly I never think I will..especially after watching Zack ans Mirni make a porno lol. I know it's just a movie but OMG that image has scarred me for life
absolutely not. been there done that and guess what ladies? we dont have a prostate! lol so yeah whats the point?
Negative. I got issues getting stuff to come OUT of my butt, I don't need stuff going in =]. DH has told me he never wants to do that, so we're both on the same page.
I had a cousin try it and she gave me all the graphic details. After that, NO WAY. She said it was AWFUL and you had to go so slow her DH got limp on her and it was just awful, like a bad exam, and that it's much better to just use toys and be creative.
Ok i'll be the first one to say that I really enjoy it. I've done it with a few different people, (including FH obviously), and it has always been very enjoyable for me as long as they do the work, (like Monitajb said). Just like regular sex it wasn't something that was good the first time. It definitely took 1 or 2 times to figure out what works for me but once I did...I really REALLY enjoyed it. I know women don't have a prostate but honestly, sometimes it feels better for me than regular sex.
The boy has never expressed ANY interest in the back door and I am perfectly happy keeping it that way
I've done it a few times, the first time (with someone else) I didn't enjoy it. With my SO, I liked it. Like monitajb said, prep work helps!
I agree completely with Miss BooBoo and also chose other...
I voted other - because I would have to say I enjoy a little action back there but have never had full out intercourse back there... but a little tease turns me on! Sorry if TMI!
Nooooo way!!! One time we were having intense sex and it slipped out and just poked the outside of my anus and it hurt like HELL!! I screamed and then I started laughing while tears were coming out of my eyes!!! It was really funny that I started crying but it really hurt!!
I told my FH in the beginning of our relationship that I wouldn't be opposed to it with my husband and now that we are getting married I am regretting ever saying that cause I'm really going back on what I said...especially after the slip incident.
I'm with ejs4y8, I have a hard enough time getting things out... My anus is a one way!!
i'm so on the fence about this. i always seem to think that i'll enjoy it but when it actually comes down to it, i realize that was not a great assumption.
fun fact: we have something called an "anal reflex" so pressure there causes it to contract. something we learned a lot about for giving rectal exams - don't go right in, press for a second first, then enter after the reflex has had a chance to relax. perhaps something our men can all learn for other purposes!
um...welll - i used to date a guy totally into it - i'll say I've done it - and it was "fine" - i guess i'd even say i liked it at times - but not something i search out and am very happy hubby's not into it. :)
I haven't done it & my FI has expressed interest (he's never done it either)... only I think we're both too chicken to try it out! We have to do some research before we try it out.
TMI time: the only reason my ex 'let' me say no to sex (I'm still technically a vaginal virgin, despite being in an abusive relationship with this guy for 3 1/2 years) was because we would have anal. At first he used lube and went slow and it wasn't bad, but not great either. After a while though, he just kind of forced his way in and would get mad if I was tense at all or cried or whatever.
To anyone considering trying this, please, use lube, make sure your guy goes slow, and if it hurts, slow down or stop!!! I have tearing that hasn't healed properly 3 years later, because every time I wipe my bum it irritates it. And I poo very regularly ;) Be careful!!!!
This is a one way door only and it will never happen.
DH is perfectly fine with that.
I agree with DDW about using lube, going slowly, you need to be in control if you do it.
I like it occassionally but not something we do a lot.
I've done it a few times, and it was an ok experience. A LOT of paitence though, lol!!!! With FI, though, he is, ahem, too 'large' to even make me want to try. It would be extremely painful.
Okay, no. Never. Neither of us have any interest in it. "The vag is for the dick, the ass is for the shit", to quote a very dear and very outspoken friend of mine....LOL.
I'm not a fan, personally.
My FI would love to do it, but he is "large" and the two issues combined do not make for a fun time.
I have heard that if the female climaxes first, it makes it easier, but we've never tried. I'd like to go the rest of my life w/o having to try again, but I'm not sure I will win that war.
It's just a very uncomfortable feeling for me.
tried it. hated it. tried it. hated it even more. never again.
with FI of course.
I've told FI that I'm saving that for down the road when things start to get "predictable" and we need to spice things up. I always joke that it's my Ace in the Hole so to speak.
I'm not crazy about doing it, but I'm willing (and tentative).
I have never done this and probably never will but if I learned one thing from a gay roommate: use an enema. If the poo part freaks you out I guess.
No, no and NO. Never tried it and won't try it and the FI isn't interested either. I'm just freaked out by the thought but I have read that some people (men and women) do enjoy it---to each there own I say!
I must say, when I read the topic title I just laughed out loud and appreciate the laugh on a day I needed it. I think it's good that girls are being honest and maybe someone who is interested will gain some good, uh, tips(?) so it goes a little better for their first time if they choose to try.
I have to admit I dont mind a little playing back there, but my ex would constantly ask for it and it just didnt do it for me. But I would try to pretend to enjoy it for him. Even though he always asked he rarely got it, but he liked to say (when I asked him why he liked it) that it was hotter, tighter and more degrading to women.... one of the millions of reasons he is now my ex.
If I NEVER had to do it again, that would be fine with me!!!! I do know plenty of Ladies that like in though!
The answer is lube, lube, and more lube! It's also different in that something tiny like a finger can feel huge like an entire arm! I've found that small toys are more enjoyable than full-on, all-the-way-in penile penetration.
Goodness...we eventually get around to talking about EVERYTHING on this board, don't we?!
I've had a couple (and I really do mean 2 or 3) nice experiences in this ... err ... arena that have involved good hygiene, lots of communication, slow, gentle progress ... and yes, lube. I keep telling FI that I can be into it, I just have to be in the right mood. It's been 5 years however, and the 'right mood' hasn't hit yet.
If it were a particular fantasy of his, I'd get into it (which explains the past experience) but apparently it's not appealing enough for me to pursue with a partner who doesn't care about it one way or another.
So... TMI alert! lol when I was more into the BDSM lifestyle than I am now, I dated a guy who was really into this. I was afraid due to bad past experience, but with lots of lube and patience we made it work, and it wasn't so bad. After a while I didn't need lube anymore and would have some really great orgasms that way.
Now, with FI, he's a lot less experienced with it. And by the time I'd met him, I hadn't been with above ex for at least a year and was out of practice, and again, it was hurting. It's now been almost two years since going that route. I have to confess, that this thread makes me miss it a little.
Anyway, I guess what I want to say, for those who are curious, if you take the right time and practice, it can be a nice bit of variety. Keep an open mind.
Meh - I can take it or leave it TBH, I've had ex's who was really into it, so with plenty of lube and going gentle he got his kicks and I enjoyed it a bit, we would then swap round and I'd get my fun and he'd do something he wasn't fussed on!
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