Post # 1
Haven’t been on here much since I got married in April! Married life is excellent 🙂
I’m going to be traveling to London (2 days) and Banbury (2 days) for work. Won’t really be in any sketchy areas, I’m not a naturally worried person, but also city wise and street smart. I know it’s not good to be flashy or look any more like a non-local than you have to. Plus, I will be working with locals there and don’t want to be perceived as pretentious.
My ring isn’t crazy by US standards, but from what I’ve come to understand, it probably is on the larger side by UK standards. The engagement ring is a 1.1 carat solitare, the engagement ring is a 1.4 total weight half-eternity band.
I’m debating leaving my engagement ring at home. My wedding band on its own isn’t too flashy, but it can get pretty blingy with them combined (which I love).
Would it be a good idea to leave the e-ring home, or have bigger ring sets become common and it won’t even be noticed? (Of course, my fingers also swell when I fly, so it wouldn’t hurt to leave it just for that reason!!! But mostly asking for social differences)
Post # 3
I’m marrying a guy from the UK, and I just asked him this question, and he gave me a very strange look. As long as you’re not flaunting it, you’ll be fine. He says Banbury is not a bad place at all, good shopping lol.
London is awesome!! It’s very cosmopolitan. I go there yearly and I would not be afraid to wear my ring there (haven’t had the chance yet).
Post # 4
I think you’ll be OK. The only thing I will say is that I have seen women with big rings on the London underground, and to my mind then it immediately makes me think “modestly dressed… no other bling… large e-ring… ah, I know! An American!”
So I’d say it’s fine as long as you don’t mind being immediately identified as an American, LOL!
Post # 5
PS I know that I posted on here before about how having a big ring can make you seem like bit of a “CHAV”, in the eyes of other Brits. It’s can be a bit of a stigma.
Don’t worry about that… we all know the difference between an American and a CHAV… honest! Nobody will mistake you for one.
Post # 6
Hey traveler! I’m a Chicagoan living in London, and my e-ring has never been an issue, and it’s not exactly modest either. If you do happen to find yourself in a dodgy area whilst you’re here, I’d just turn the ring around so the center stone faces my palm. But I would not worry at all! Enjoy your trip!
Post # 7
Lol you’ll be fine. I wear my ring and I live in London, walked back home late at night wearing it and I’m still here to tell the tale. You’ll be absolutely fine. Unless you are in some rubbish areas, in which case just keep your head down and walk on, but on the whole you’ll be fine.
Post # 8
I don’t think you’ll have any greater risk to your ring while traveling than you normally have at home.
Post # 9
You’ll be fine. Banbury is safe as houses and London is OK too since I very doubt that you’ll be hanging around in the sort of obviously dodgy neighbourhoods where you’ll attract attention. In any case, most opportunist thieves will want your iPad and phone. Not to try and chop your finger off.
The UK really is a very safe place and London and Banbury are not like downtown Detroit.
Post # 10
@NAvery: I think you’ll be fine. By the way there is some lovely countryside around Banbury – quite picture postcode like as it borders the Cotswolds.
Post # 11
You’ll be fine to wear your rings.
Post # 12
I literally cannot believe this was even asked. Do you think women in London don’t wear engagement rings?
If you seriously believed even for a second that you can’t wear a nice ring in England without fear of being mugged, then suddenly all the questions on the internet from Americans with irrational paranoia about travel in general seem a lot less crazy…
Post # 13
@NAvery: I read your question as being more about whether you’d stand out socially rather than on security grounds. On social – yes, yours will be on the larger side, but (especially in London) it’s not big enough to make you stand out. I wear my engagement ring, with a higher total carat weight than yours, in London and Banbury and I’ve never felt that I overly stood out.
If your question was more security related: don’t be ridiculous, you’ll be fine.
Post # 14
@AmyJCardiff: She is not saying shes paranoid about wearing it. She just wanted to make sure she wouldnt stand out and wasn’t sure if a ring like the one she has is/is not socially acceptable. No need to give out to her – it was just an honest question.
Post # 15
@Eat-well-travel-often: Thanks – yes, you read right… don’t want to stand out socially. Not worried about security (although of course anything that makes you look obviously like a tourist – a backpack, white tennis shoes, stopping in the middle of the sidewalk to look at a map, etc does make you more of a target for theft).
@AmyJCardiff: Don’t be ridiculous (and rude). It’s a pretty well noted difference between the UK and US that the average ring size is smaller in the UK (note, I said average). Just like I’m researching standard business dress for the types of companies I’ll be meeting with (suit? business casual? etc), I’m also trying to think through other “cultural norms” just so as not to be perceived in a way I don’t intend. Frankly, I do it when I travel within the US too – the West Coast vs the East Coast has some very different expectations if you don’t want to stand out in a business environment! I just didn’t have the developed knowledge for the UK like I do within the US. I’m sure after my first trip, I’ll have a much better feel for what the “norm” is on all sorts of things.
Thanks to everyone for the answers! It sounds like the tide has turned, and certainly in London, to where larger rings aren’t particularly notable.