UK Bees…..Wearing your engagement ring at interviews.

posted 3 years ago in Rings
Post # 2
Hostess
10870 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

I wore mine to an interview, didn’t get the job but two months later they remembered my enthusiasm and offered me another job. I started a week after getting married. Three years later I’m still there and have been permanent for two years.

Post # 3
Member
494 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

I’ve worn my engagement ring for two interviews and got both jobs 🙂 unless you’re ring is a giant penis shaped diamond, I wouldn’t give it a second thought! 

Post # 4
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494 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

I’ll also add that I’m a young bride 24 and I’ve got an averaged sized ring at 0.51 (because that 0.01 makes a difference! Lol) and I went to the interviews dressed sensibly. I’m enthusiastic, I enjoy interviews and I’m really quite good at what I do. the positive stuff with shine through no matter what. I think if anyone fears they didn’t get the job over an engagement ring and “lack of commitment because of the ring” I think they’d be kidding themselves a bit IMHO 🙂

i am sure you’ll do amazingly! X

Post # 5
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1119 posts
Bumble bee

I took mine off and I got the job… but may well have got it anyway. However I would still take it off next time.  I’ve heard too many stories of people being asked inappropriate (and illegal) questions about their future plans to risk it. Saying th though once imy married I will keep the rings on which is the same if not worse than keeping the engagement ring on 🙂

Post # 6
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1119 posts
Bumble bee

P.s. I’m related to someone who works in employment law… This sort of discrimination happens, I’m not just paranoid

Post # 7
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494 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

If I saw a person with no ring on, they could just as easily get married and move on. Or have kids. And a young person with a wedding ring? Maybe they’ll be having kids too. Or decide to leave to concentrate on home. If you give the right answer when they ask where you see yourself in X years, no one will genuinely not give you the job over a ring lol 

Post # 8
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7664 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2013 - UK

My impression was that US bees don’t wear their rings because many of them have enormous great honking rocks, and they don’t want the interviewer to think that they are super rich and don’t need the job.

Seeing as rings are smaller and more modest here, I can’t imagine that many people would have that problem.

Post # 9
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1230 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

Engaged in Paris:  This may be one of the crazier things I’ve read on WB. Huh?? If a company questions my reliability because at some point I’m getting married, that’s a company I don’t want to work for. Men don’t have to worry about it!

Jesus, I know you didn’t mean to be sexist, but girl, it is time to shake these sexist ideas that hold us back! It’s 2014!! 

Post # 10
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478 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Engaged in Paris:  I wore mine to an interview and got the job. I also vaguely remember mentioning that in my spare time I was wedding planning!

Post # 11
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145 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

sarahalthea

I’m not sure the OP was implying the companies would be questioning her reliability, as much as factoring into the equation the perceived increased chance of her heading off on 6+ months maternity leave.

Is it really sexist to try to work around a (potentially) sexist system?

Engaged in Paris

I know that for my company in the UK, the presence of an engagment ring wouldn’t matter. That said, when I was interviewing for this job, I was super-cagey about any personal life.

Post # 12
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1904 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2014 - TTC #2

I’d wear it, and if they ask, just say the truth- you’re not planning on getting married for 2 years.

I wore mine to my interview in March for my June wedding as I needed to tell them that as a requirement of employment I’d need two weeks off starting in May… I got the job and the days off! I was pretty confident I’d get the job regardless though.

Post # 13
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1049 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

I am an Aussie but went to a job interview today with my e-ring on. I am young (22) so I actually think its beneficial to me. More likely I have some stability in life rather than going partying on work nights and stuff. 

Post # 15
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470 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

Engaged in Paris:  I’m a UK bee who recently went for interviews so I might be able to offer some advice! I had an interview a few months back when I wore my engagement ring, and didn’t get the job. I had an interview at the same company a couple months later, didn’t wear my ring and was offered the job. Obviously there are other factors involved in their decision making, but I didnt want to take the chance in my second interview. The job market is tough out there, and anything that can help your case can only be a good thing, however stupid. I would advise not wearing your ring 🙂

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