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If she is traveling to the US for the wedding, I'd pay for her dress. That is no cheap plane ticket, and it's why only one member of my family and two friends can come :/
In the UK, the bride pays for her maids' dresses. At least, that's been true in my experience.
I kind of agree with hana.schmitt. I would pony up the cash for her dress regardless of who usually pays in the UK. I have a bridesmaid coming all the way from Japan, and I'm definitely paying for both her dress and her two daughters' flower girl dresses.
The bride usually pays for the dresses in the UK. Occasionally the bridesmaids will pay but usually only if they get to choose the dresses (and/or the bride is really broke and cutting back elsewhere too).
I have heard conflicting opinions on who pays for what in the UK. I honestly thought it was an out of date tradition that the bride pays for the bridesmaid dresses - as is the case in the US at least. In this case, the bridesmaid did get to pick her dress out. The other bridesmaids are in the US and if that's the case, it would be kind of rude to pay for one and not the others. I will have to look at my budget and figure out what to do.
@SugerPlum: The majority of brides pay for the bridesmaids' dresses in the UK. Not sure there's much conflict in that.
We've phased out free bars instead. Swings and roundabouts.
I don't think it would be rude as most flights are, even this far in advance, in the $500-1000 range!
In the UK, the bridesmaid pays for the dress (and usually everything else). It makes no difference if they chose the dress or not, they still don't pay. So it is highly likely that when you asked her to be a BM, she had absolutely no idea that there might be a financial implication of being a BM. To be a BM here is an honour but it doesn't cost you anything usually (for some, it may cost shoes/jewellery/hair but that's hard to know how many brides don't pay for this for their BMs).
She may know about the US tradition, though, since her brother lives (presumably) in the US. So she may be aware that being a BM actually has a negative cost over there. But hey, even if she knows this, I'd pay for her dress. She is coming a long way. And I don't think it would be rude to other BMs because they're not coming that far.
@SpecialSundae: In looking up various UK based websites, I found there were competing opinions/schools of thought/traditions, etc - which is why I posted here; it's great to have the Bee and get immediate feedback! I appreciate your, and everyone else's, opinions.
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Hello UK Bees! I need your help. My Fiance is British and I had asked his sister to be a bridesmaid, she accepted. In the UK, who pays for the bridesmaid dresses - the bridesmaid or the bride? The wedding is in the US. Thanks for your advice!