(Closed) UK Bridemaid to USA wedding – who pays what?

posted 6 years ago in United Kingdom
Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

If she is traveling to the US for the wedding, I’d pay for her dress. That is no cheap plane ticket, and it’s why only one member of my family and two friends can come :/

Post # 4
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Helper bee

In the UK, the bride pays for her maids’ dresses.  At least, that’s been true in my experience. 

Post # 5
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: January 2012

I kind of agree with hana.schmitt.  I would pony up the cash for her dress regardless of who usually pays in the UK.  I have a bridesmaid coming all the way from Japan, and I’m definitely paying for both her dress and her two daughters’ flower girl dresses.

Post # 6
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2012

The bride usually pays for the dresses in the UK. Occasionally the bridesmaids will pay but usually only if they get to choose the dresses (and/or the bride is really broke and cutting back elsewhere too).

Post # 8
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2012

@SugerPlum: The majority of brides pay for the bridesmaids’ dresses in the UK. Not sure there’s much conflict in that.

We’ve phased out free bars instead. Swings and roundabouts.

Post # 9
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

I don’t think it would be rude as most flights are, even this far in advance, in the $500-1000 range!

Post # 10
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Bumble bee

In the UK, the bridesmaid pays for the dress (and usually everything else). It makes no difference if they chose the dress or not, they still don’t pay. So it is highly likely that when you asked her to be a BM, she had absolutely no idea that there might be a financial implication of being a BM. To be a BM here is an honour but it doesn’t cost you anything usually (for some, it may cost shoes/jewellery/hair but that’s hard to know how many brides don’t pay for this for their BMs).

She may know about the US tradition, though, since her brother lives (presumably) in the US. So she may be aware that being a BM actually has a negative cost over there. But hey, even if she knows this, I’d pay for her dress. She is coming a long way. And I don’t think it would be rude to other BMs because they’re not coming that far.

Post # 12
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Bumble bee

Have you decided what you will do/say?

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