Post # 1
I’m Ukranian Catholic and I’m wondering how to get the process started in finding/booking a church for the wedding. I’m not a regular churchgoer so I don’t have a church of my own.
While my mom is part of the congregation of a Ukranian church, it is not in the city I want to be married in.
Any ideas on how to find a church and convince them to marry us? I imagine it’s not as simple showing up one Sunday and cornering the priest lol. I’d like to know the steps I need to take.
Post # 3
So I’m not sure about Ukranian Catholic specifically, but here’s what I would do if you were just “regular Catholic” 🙂 Honestly, the easiest thing to do might be to get married in your mom’s church, or ask her priest if he would marry you in another city. The chuches in the US tend to really frown on marrying people who are already parishoners.
If that won’t work, though, here’s what I’d do:
1)So step 1 would be to find a church in your city, go on Sunday, and register after Mass.
2) Step 2 would be to keep going for a couple weeks, making sure to say ‘hi’ to the priest each time.
3) Make an appointment with the priest (and your FI) to discuss your ‘options.’ I’d emphasize that you haven’t been as motivated to go to church after you moved away from home, or whatever, and that you’re really committed to getting back into the fold now.
Post # 4
Contrats on getting ready to be married! 😉 If you are Ukranian Catholic (meaning you belong to an Eastern rite) you will probably need to be married at an Eastern rite parish. So the first step is to find the website of Ukranian Catholic eparchy for the city where you want to be married.
For instance, here is a link to the homepage of the Ukranian Catholic Eparchy of Toronto and Eastern Canada. It lists all the parishes you can choose from along with the city where they are located.
Once you have chosen a parish, attend Sunday Mass (or Divine Liturgy as Eastern rite Catholics call it). Introduce yourself to the priest. Mention you are interested in joining the parish – you don’t have to tell him you’re getting married, just say hi. Call the parish office afterward and arrange to fill out the forms to formally register. At that time you can ask to get the ball rolling on picking a wedding date!
In the USA most Latin rite churches require a waiting period of at least six months before your wedding date. During this time most of them will expect you to attend church weekly and any premarital counseling sessions. I am only familiar with American, Latin rite Catholic churches but I imagine the Easterners are fairly similar with the requirements and so forth.
It’s important that you demonstrate to them that you are not just using the Church for a convenient venue for your wedding, you appreciate the spiritual aspects and are in it for the long haul so to speak. They don’t want to marry you and then never see your face at church again.
Post # 5
OK, well, I actually have a church that I’m affiliated with in my city, BUT I didn’t want to get married there. I ended up getting ahold of the church I DID want to get married at and just talking to them. They were awesome. Mine is a historical church, so that may make a difference. They just charged us a little more for not being in their parish.
Post # 6
Thanks so much for the advice ladies! My FI and I are going to start trying out divine lituragy at a couple of nearby Ukranian churches and see how we feel about them. If one of them clicks we will join the parish and talk about our options. I definately dont want to join a church and have my wedding there without feeling like I would go back afterwards. I think they would take me more seriously knowing that too.