Post # 1
I’m having issues with two of my bridesmaids. Both of which are married. Neither of them ordered their dresses until I gave them the harsh news that they need to have their dresses ordered by October 1st or they could not be in the wedding. One of them waited a few days after the deadline and gave me the excuse that “someone had stolen her debit card” so she went to the bank and went through “all the trouble just to buy the dress.”You know what? You knew you had to order the dress 6 months in advance, you would have had to “go through all the trouble” regardless. Now I feel as if I’m being very mean and strict with their shoes. I want their shoes bought by December 1st. I don’t think this is too much to ask….
Being that both of them have been brides themselves, I would think they would understand how stressed I am. I’m not having any problems with my 17 year old sister and my other 19 year old bridesmaid. They already have their dresses. It’s just irritating and stressful.
Post # 3
Yep. If you’re not the bride, you’re just not going to be 100% on top of things. At least that’s something I figured out. I had some issues getting my girls to buy their dresses with enough time to allow for alterations if needed. I did feel like it came down to me getting a tad bit bitchy to get some of them to actually take me seriously and go get it done. But in the end I didn’t really feel too bad about it, because I knew that even though I’ve known those girls forever being super easy going wasn’t giving them the push they needed to realize that it was actually really important. It does suck, but just breathe – post wedding you will let all of this go and you’ll be able to move past any annoyances/drama of the bridal party. I didn’t tell them they weren’t going to be in the wedding though – I just let them know that I was getting really stressed out with the date coming up and that I really needed them to be on top of it so it wouldn’t be another thing I had to worry about.
I didn’t care when the girls got their shoes though, they didn’t have to order them or anything I just had them buy some they wanted. But I could see why they would need them by a certain time if they are long dresses that need altering according to what heels they are wearing and what not.
Post # 4
@bloodgo1: haha I tried the whole “I’m really starting to stress over you not having your dress ordered yet… Is there any way you might be able to order it within the next week?” And I got the “Oh honey, our dresses are the last thing that you need to worry about. Don’t fret, everything will happen just how it’s supposed to.” Then I had to get nasty. I pulled the “If you don’t order your dress by ________ it won’t be here in time for you to participate in the wedding.” They all had them ordered within the next week. I’m never like that, but that was the last thing I needed to be stressed about.