Weddingbee boards

So, I have a girlfriend who asks me - everytime we see each other, seriously - if she can try on my engagement ring.  I always say no and do not let her.  Then we go round and round in the same dumb conversation where she thinks I'm being silly ("it's just a ring"), and I think she's being rude.  Of course our discussion does not get heated and I don't tell her she's rude, but I have told her to stop asking, yet she continues.  She even asked my FI once to convince me to let her try on my ring.  He was shocked, said no, and when we got home he told me he did not want to see my ring on her finger.

Honestly, I have never, nor would I ever, ask any of my girlfriends if I could try on their engagement rings (or wedding rings).  Am I alone in this?  How do you all feel?  I guess I'm just venting because I'm sure I won't change my feelings on this . . . it was a gift just for me, specially sized for my finger, a symbol of our commitment to each other (less than 2 months until our day!!), our forever love . . . what would you / do you do when someone asks if they can try on your ring(s)?

i wouldn't necessarily think it was a big deal...

Meli ~ This girl also tried to pry my ring off my finger once, I was shocked!  I've been engaged for 9 months . . . she hasn't let up.

I hadn't thought of superstition . . . but I did let my Mom and FI's Mom see the ring (I have taken it off for only them).  They were both so cute because (and this was on separate occasions) they put it on their pinky fingers and said it wasn't theirs to wear on her their ring finger.

I have let a couple friends try on my ring- but these were CLOSE friends... people I wouldn't freak out on, people I spend time with on a regular basis. But if someone wasn't a close friend, then no way... it's bad joo-joo... I would be completely freaked if someone tried to pull my ring off my finger! And I would probably accidentally pop their hand with my other hand, you know like a "reflex". LOL!
If the girl asks again, tell her that if she wants to try on rings that she can go to the jewelry store and to please stop asking you because it makes you uncomfortable.

I actually have let people (or let people slide it on up to their knuckle -- since it's such a small band size no one can fit it, really!); I guess to me it's not such a big deal.  I think the request is bold but not necessarily rude, on its own -- maybe a hidden compliment? But if it is crossing over a personal boundary for you, then she is indeed being rude, especially if you've asked her not to ask anymore.  I agree that I would never request to try on someone else's.  But, I would say, try not to let it bother you too much -- just be glad you have such a pretty ring that someone else is dying to just try it on!

one of my friends tried it on when she asked to see it up close, but i did think it was a bit odd. :P

oh, and my sister tried it on, but that didnt feel weird at all. she was just admiring it. :) she's like oooh, i like! haha.

I let one of my (married) best friends try it on without any hesitation. *shrug* It just depends on your own personal preference.  I'd never ask to try one someone else's ring, but I don't mind if others ask.

Thanks everyone for your comments -  while she may mean it as a compliment (because the ring is beautiful!) she has also told me and FI that its too small and not her preference of cut.  Good thing FI got the ring for me because it's perfect and more than I had ever hoped for!!

I've definitely let people try on my ring, and I've tried on other people's rings.  In my old office, 4 of us got engaged within a year or so of one another, and we all tried one another's rings.  I don't personally think it's a big deal.   What is a big deal is that she keeps pushing you when you've already clearly said no.

I think it's rude of her to keep asking to try on your ring when you've said "No" plenty of times. I totally agree with you. That ring was given to YOU. Some people are different where as they don't mine letting people try on their ring. I've never been the type to ask to try on other people's jewelry. I just don't get why someone would ask to try on someone else's engagement ring. I say buy her a ring pop and hope she gets over it!

i let my best friend try it on, and both of our mothers asked to see it up close, off my hand. any one else, though, i'd feel weird taking it off and letting them try it on. it's my ring, and i'm a little protective. :) i probably wouldn't make a big deal out of someone asking the first time, that's understandable, but if they asked repeatedly... that's just plain rude.

The day after I got engaged, my SIL came to see my ring. Not as much because she was excited, but because she wanted to compare it to her own. Before I knew it, she had my ring on her finger. I was SO mad. I don't necessarily think it's a big deal with a close friend that you feel comfortable with, but some people ask for the wrong reasons. To me, it all depends on the vibe you get from that person that is asking.

I haven't taken my ring off since he put it on my finger. It is a huge deal to me that he put it on me, and that moment and , I dunno, guess it's just me.  I don't want anyone trying it on, it's mine. LOL.. sorry, but this is one thing I feel like I can be selfish about.

Hahaha, I saw my mother the first time maybe a month after we were engaged, and she asked to see the ring and got it stuck on her ring finger.  I'll admit to being slightly panicked while it was stuck, but once it was off, we all had a good laugh.

I have no qualms with someone else trying on my ring.  I take it off when I cook and when I clean it, so it's not like it's there exactly the way it was ever since he put it on.  

Plus, I have a less common cut, so everyone wants to see it up close -- a lot of people have never seen one before.  And then they all fall in love with it and promptly announce it is what they will be getting someday.  I'm more than willing to spread the love. :) 

I agree that it is a personal thing... and that your friend should respect your refusal to let her wear the ring. Jeesh. I can't believe she went to the lengths to even ask your FI!

I personally don't really care if my close girlfriends try on my ring. In fact, one of my bridesmaids (friends since 5) almost always wears it when we go out. She literally WEARS it, not just tries it on. If we have a meal together and go shopping or whatever she wears it for a few hours. haha. I just feel like, hey, it's just a ring and it really is a compliment because I know she loves the ring. and she is basically saying that she wishes she was engaged as well.

But, that being said, I would personally never ask to try on or wear a friend's engagement ring. I would feel inda' rude even though I don't think my friend is. haha.