(Closed) Um, a girlfriend wants to try on my engagement ring?!?!!!!

posted 10 years ago in Rings
Post # 3
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2008

i wouldn’t necessarily think it was a big deal…

Post # 4
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: February 2018

I totally feel the same way!  I think there’s even a superstition about letting people try on your engagement rings.  When I was first engaged, my gf literally tried to pull the ring off my finger…I was thinking…WTH!?!? I just told her that it was too tight and wouldn’t come off.  I was pretty upset that she tried to do that too. 

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2008

I have let a couple friends try on my ring- but these were CLOSE friends… people I wouldn’t freak out on, people I spend time with on a regular basis. But if someone wasn’t a close friend, then no way… it’s bad joo-joo… I would be completely freaked if someone tried to pull my ring off my finger! And I would probably accidentally pop their hand with my other hand, you know like a "reflex". LOL!
If the girl asks again, tell her that if she wants to try on rings that she can go to the jewelry store and to please stop asking you because it makes you uncomfortable.

Post # 7
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Worker bee

I actually have let people (or let people slide it on up to their knuckle — since it’s such a small band size no one can fit it, really!); I guess to me it’s not such a big deal.  I think the request is bold but not necessarily rude, on its own — maybe a hidden compliment? But if it is crossing over a personal boundary for you, then she is indeed being rude, especially if you’ve asked her not to ask anymore.  I agree that I would never request to try on someone else’s.  But, I would say, try not to let it bother you too much — just be glad you have such a pretty ring that someone else is dying to just try it on!

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2008 - Winery in the Gold Country

People ask me all the time, and i always oblige with no hesitation.  The FI spent a LOT of money on my ring, and if people want to stare at its sparkly goodness, then by all means! 

That being said, thats just me.  If you’re uncomfortable with parting with your ring, then you shouldnt have to.  But I guess I sympathise with your friend in that she probably just thinks your ring is so beautiful and wants to get a good look at how it might feel one day to be a bride ๐Ÿ™‚  Its the best feeling in the world, right? 

Post # 9
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

one of my friends tried it on when she asked to see it up close, but i did think it was a bit odd. ๐Ÿ˜›

Post # 10
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

oh, and my sister tried it on, but that didnt feel weird at all. she was just admiring it. ๐Ÿ™‚ she’s like oooh, i like! haha.

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2008

I think it is totally a personal thing.  You don’t want other girls trying on your ring.  I don’t like other people wearing my clothes.  One of my best friends doesn’t like anybody eating off her plate.  It is your ring, and if you don’t want to let anyone try it on, that is your choice.  It is rude of her to keep asking.  I would just tell her that you would rather not have her try it on, and tell her to please not ask again. 

Post # 12
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

I let one of my (married) best friends try it on without any hesitation. *shrug* It just depends on your own personal preference.  I’d never ask to try one someone else’s ring, but I don’t mind if others ask.

Post # 13
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2008

I agree with Suzanno but personally I let my girlfriends try on my ring and I try on my girlfriends ring and never thought twice. I would just take it as a compliment but agree that she should get a hint and stop asking you…

Post # 14
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2018 - The Desmond Hotel in Malvern, PA

I am not totally comfortable with this either, although I’d let my really close friends try it for a second if they asked….. 

I think the superstition is actually that it’s bad luck for HER to try on someone else’s ring…. so maybe that will shut her up

Post # 15
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Newbee

I think you should take it as a compliment although I agree if you’d said no to her then its quite rude for her to keep asking.

Where i’m from, its actually good luck for someone to try on your engagement ring and turn it in a circle three times so when girls get newly engaged, the single girls always ask to try it on and its not a big deal. 

When I got engaged, I had expected the same so was not uncomfortable with it.  I only got annoyed if people put their fingers on my diamond while they were trying it on ๐Ÿ˜‰ 

Post # 16
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

Totally a personal thing. I have zero problems with people trying my ring on, but I take it off to sleep/shower, etc., so I’m not used to it being there 24/7. I also don’t believe it’s bad luck and, come to think of it, I don’t think anybody’s ever explicitly asked me; I’ve always offered to let them. But the point here is that you don’t want her to and she gives you a hard time about it, so – some friend! Stick to your guns. There’s absolutely nothing wrong with telling her to buzz off.

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