- 5 years ago
- Wedding: May 2015
So, over the weekend, my SO and I had a couple of interesting conversations. One involved me bringing up getting engaged/future wedding stuff out of the blue, and he got annoyed and said that the “thrice-weekly hints” were too much. That stung some, and we talked it over; it turns out that most of the time, he finds it “sweet” when I bring such things up (and by the way he said it, I think he does like it; but I think it also makes him a bit nervous), but I have been talking about it a little too much. I promised to not talk about it so much (and just joined the Shut-It-Up pact for the first time this week).
On Saturday night, we went out dancing (contra-dancing, which is a form of social line dancing). On Sunday morning (his birthday) we ended up talking about all the different sorts of people at the dance (we met at a contra dance, in the same place we were on Saturday, so going to those dances always brings up fun things about when we met). It turned into a conversation about whether we had, previous to meeting each other, envisioned what sort of person we wanted to be with. I was telling him about what I’d thought I wanted (he’s very different in some ways from my then-“ideal man,” but I’m happy with that), and using very casual terms like “the person I want to be with” rather than anything like “my future husband” or “the person I want to be with forever.” And then he was telling me about what he’d thought, and said “I’d never really had any particular criteria about the person I’ll marry. Just someone interesting.” And then he quickly switched back to language like what I was using, but not before I caught the slip! From the way he said that, I do believe he was referring to me. 😀 EEEE!
Lately he keeps doing things like this– little slips of the tongue that reveal that he’s thinking about marriage too! Yay! But I’m not expecting anything to happen for. . . well. . . several months to a year.
Anyone else had things like this happen to them lately? Isn’t it fun, and a relief, when one’s SO does something like this just when you were thinking, “oh my, he really doesn’t like thinking about this, I wonder if he wants to be with me the same way I want to be with him?”