Post # 1
ok so this is kinda awkward but o well, here it goes: do you masturbate? i’ve never have before.. i’m starting to think i’m part of the minority… me and Fiance have a really good sex life and he knows how to please me. am i a total weirdo for never doing it? I mean i’ve never even tried it, ok i am offically blushing.
Post # 3
Maybe add a poll so those of us who wish to remain anonymous can still contribute?
Post # 4
I’ll play. Yes. Not nearly as much now that I have my man, but knowing exactly what works for me helped me to show HIM exactly what works for me.
Post # 5
Thanks! Judging from the many votes in the poll compared to the few responses in the comments, I would say a lot of bees feel that way. 🙂
Post # 6
probably when I was single it was only like 1x/mo, but since I’ve been living w/ my man, it’s probably only like 1-2x/year, when he is not around…he could go almost any day, so I try to save up for him, and he is not intimidated if I “help” during our sessions
Post # 7
I totally do! Sometimes I just don’t feel like the whole “production”, just want the end result=)
Post # 8
there was a crazy huge poll about this a few months ago… let me see if I can find it. I’d say you’re in the minority, but there’s no problem with that!
ETA: Found it 🙂 http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/self-love-poll-wink-wink
Seriously, it’s a person choice and if you don’t feel the need or desire, there’s no reason for you to mastrubate.
Post # 9
Like other people I used to do it more often when I was single but since dating my Fiance I haven’t done it in a while. I actually feel a tad guilty at times if I do because I really enjoy what we have together and don’t want him to think I prefer that, is that weird? lol
Post # 10
Its totally normal and natural to masturbate, but its also normal not to want to. Some women just feel really uncomfortable about it. I think its probably a societal thing that some women don’t feel right doing it or feel “dirty” or guilty if they do it. It’s true though that if you know what you like because you have found out through self-exploration then you will be able to easily convey that to your partner. If you have a great sex life and feel there’s no desire for it then that’s fine! I agree with twalila though that sometimes I don’t want to have to go through the whole thing I just want the end result…..this is especially good for times when I’m home and he’s not! In fact, I don’t think I’ve ever done it if he’s in the house!
Post # 11
oh and…we’re date twins!!
Post # 12
OH, wow that poll will grow to 99.9 percent very soon. lol…
What a TABOO, according to past this was frowned uponed at women.. NOw I wonder if we masterbate more than men. lol.
Post # 13
@NINA sometimes I wonder that too 😉
Post # 14
interesting to see everyones thoughts on it. i have to admit a couple years ago i did view it as “dirty” and that it was ok for guys to do but not girls…. part of it is i guess, the society that we are in and what we are “taught” to believe. however over the years you learn sterotypes are not to be believed. i now view it as perfectly normal and is great for regardless of what sex you are.
@clarebee, august 21 will be here soon!!! crazy!
Post # 15
I haven’t in years. I had my first O courtesy of FI’s hands. During a stretch of long distance, we had phone sex a few times and that was probably the first time I masturbated. I was able to finish myself off that way, with his voice to help. Later, I tried it by myself, just to show myself that I could and didn’t need to rely on him for pleasure. Once I had satisfied myself that I could do it, I lost all desire to try again. The real thing is so much better!
Sorry if TMI!!!!
Post # 16
well i do know but i masturbated for the first time last year … i think is natural and after i actually did it i got more conscious of my body and my sexuality… by the way i did it because my best friend got me a great toy call the celebrator … a women best friend … ok now i stop i said to much