(Closed) UMMM whaaaa?!?

posted 5 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
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Buzzing Beekeeper

Ring or no ring, you have a verbal engagement 🙂

Post # 4
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2012

So you’re technically engaged without him really asking? Perhaps he needs to just do it if you are already doing the planning.

 

Post # 5
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Newbee

You’re very much engaged. Now, if that romantic moment of a traditional proposal is important to you, tell him that. He might think it’s unnecessary.

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

If you don’t think you are engaged, then you are not.  No one can be engaged until and unless they and their SO agree that they are engaged.

I would ask him about the status of the relationship to see if you are on the same page.  If him formally proposing to you is important to you, I would tell him that.  When’s the big day?

 

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I’d stop planning until you think you’re engaged.

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

I’m sort of in this situation – we’re technically engaged as we are going to start our planning and involve my parents this spring.

We are not getting “formally” engaged until after I meet his parents (another country) this fall (ring, public announcement, down on one knee all that). This is important to me, I really would like them to have met me, and for him to tell them in person he’s going to marry me, before we tell them it’s game on.

We agreed on this mutually, and there’s a reason we’re not making things public, but it was something that we came to together.

Just ask him what’s up – he might have a reason (ring delayed, wants to do it at a certain meaningful time, wants more time to plan but a short “formal” engagement, etc) If you guys are planning, there’s no room for being coy. He obviously is ready to go. Just ask.

 

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee

Honestly….I think if I were in your shoes I wouldn’t need a proposal.  The conversation has been had, the date has been set.  That’s pretty awesome if you ask me.  You could always bring something up in a sly way if you were trying to feel more secure in the relationship and you feel that you need the proposal.  The next time he brings it up, you could say ‘OMG you want to marry me?!?!?’ in a cute/flirty way OR when you guys start ring shopping, you could always hint that the engagment ring is supposed to compliment the wedding band or something like that.  This way you are not really saying “Hey, SO, are you gonna propose or what?!?!?”

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee

That’s so frusterating. Do you think he’ll do it soon? Still, it’s exciting!

Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2015

I was in your shoes just 2 months ago! We picked the date 6 months prior and opened the account about a month before he proposed. As long as you KNOW he’s going to pop the question, all you can do is wait. WHICH TOTALLY SUCKS, but I’m sure he has this awesome plan or ring in mind that you don’t really wanna mess up so hang in there! It’s worth it, I promise. He’s so darn pleased with himself whenever we tell “the story” of how he proposed.

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

Around this same time last year (earlier even) I was in your shoes.. we had our dj picked, photog. picked, and favors ordered (date was set too). He wanted to wait until Valentines day… but I knew it was coming and only a matter of time.

I’d give it a little while longer (depending on when your date is) our wedding isn’t until MAy so we will have been officially engaged for over a year, but we knew knew knew we wanted our anniversary to be our wedding date (just so happens to fall on a Saturday this year)

Post # 14
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

yeah im in this same boat, picked venues, colors, everything, but he probably wont officially propose until the end of the year. its still fun, you should enjoy it, because once youre “official” you can just relax and enjoy being engaged. i plan to have just about everything planned in my mind before i even get the ring. but im just overjealous like that lol.

Post # 15
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

I would also stop planning. You want to tell your friends and family you’re engaged and have a date, then when they go “how did he propose/show me the ring!” you plan to tell them ‘oh me and him just had a verbal agreement that we’re going to get married’.

Unless you’re like the girls above who want to meet family first/have a special anniversary date then I don’t understand why you’re not good enough for the special moment and ring?

Post # 16
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

yeah im in this same boat, picked venues, colors, everything, but he probably wont officially propose until the end of the year. its still fun, you should enjoy it, because once youre “official” you can just relax and enjoy being engaged. i plan to have just about everything planned in my mind before i even get the ring. but im just overjealous like that lol.

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