Post # 1
(I don’t know if I spelled that right)
Anyway (Keep in mind, DH and I moved back to my hometown about a year ago)
DH and I were at wallyworld yesterday afternoon… We were more or less burning time, trying to stay out of the heat… Well, I fell behind because I was looking at…something.. I don’t even remember anymore..
Someone said my name, so naturally, I looked up.. I was MORTIFIED.. It aws an ex, that I hadn’t seen since BEFORE we broke up.. We ended on SUPER bad terms (IE: I parked his vehicle at the train station the day he came home, and never saw or spoke to him again type bad)..
I was under the impression that this ex was out of state, and I had no need to worry about bumping into him.. WRONG.. I was at a complete loss as to what to say, and DH was a few aisles away.. I turned on my heel and walked away… GAH! Dude that was super weird and awkward.. Hope I don’t run into him again!!!
Post # 4
It’s spelled awkward. I don’t really have any advice on dealing with exes because my only ex denied ever dating me after we broke up.
Post # 5
So he said hi to you and you just ran away from him?
Post # 6
@badabing88: quietly corrects misspelling *thank you!*
@cmbr: OH MY NO! I said hi, and he started asking about life.. I told him I was married, and he attempted a hug.. Not OK.. There was a GOOD reason I left him, I did not want a hug from him… At that point for me, the conversation was over, I left.
Post # 7
This happened to me right after I broke up with my ex. I met FI (we were still in the weird pseudo-dating stage) and a close friend of ours who’d moved away at a local pool hall after work. I walk in, and the very first table I walk by is my ex and a couple who had been my friends, as well. I get past them (not noticing them), and hear, “Hey, that’s vorpalette!”
I kept walking and got over to the table and ordered a drink immediately. What are the chances that I run into him somewhere he’d never mentioned and never gone in the three years that we were together?! Then he threw a fit because I didn’t come over and say hi (???) and stomped back to his table like a child. He flirted with the nasty other waitress in front of me (lol), made a big show of getting her number (I hope she gives you herpes) and made a big scene while leaving. He had her play “You Make Me Sick” by Eminem for his exit music. lmao.
ETA: He was not a teenager or anything–we broke up when I was 23, so he was 27-28 at the time.
Post # 8
Chances are you will run into him again at some point. I think the most mature thing to do would be to make polite small talk, introduce your husband and move on.
ETA; Sorry you were updating while I was typing, I was picturing you seriously turning and walking away with out saying anything:)
Post # 10
Ugh, I have a few exes where I don’t think the entire universe is large enough for us both to inhabit safely, so I know what you mean. I don’t know how I would handle it if I ran into them. One of them I genuinely worry I would immediately just punch in the face. It’s been years and I still want to do it. Hopefully I never run into him!!
Post # 11
I hope I never run into my ex. I was with him for 8 yrs in an abusive relationship. For his sake, I hope her never run into each other, especially with my FI with me. It won’t be pretty.
Post # 12
@vorpalette: MEEP! Yeah I used to be in a pool league with the ex I ran into… DH and I don’t go to local pool halls! I won’t do it! Don’t want or need his dramas in my life [insert drama llama]
@ieatunicorns: I was cool before he went for the hug.. *chills*
@iarebridezilla: This ex cheated, lied, stole credit cards, and my prescription for pain killers after I got out of the hospital, and all around turned out to be an awful person, not the good guy he led me on to think he was :-
Post # 13
@MrsPaperFlowers: Also, BF and I each have one ex we’d completely ignore if we saw them in public.
Mine: alcoholic, drug-using, breaking-and-entering, stalking lunatic.
Him: delusional, nasty, will-still-tell-anyone-she-meets-they-were-getting-married-when-they-only-casually-dated-six-months, facebook-stalking bitch.
Both live in our area still and I’m sure we’ll eventually bump into one or both of them. Sorry, but we aren’t making polite small talk with either.
Post # 14
@MrsPaperFlowers: I try to avoid anywhere my ex will be, but, unfortunately, he’s a local police officer (though I believe he works night shift). I ran into him at the Sprint store last year (four years after we broke up) with his new girlfriend…who I thought was his mom. : She looks exactly like he wanted me to (short hair, very plain, hoodies, Abercrombie jeans, Doc Martens–straight out of 1998), which I find hilarious. He stomped out of there, too!
Post # 15
@MrsPaperFlowers: I have a couple of exes that are total assholes who I wouldn’t want to see ever again. I also have one scary ex who I would definitely hide from if I ever saw him coming up the street.
Post # 16
Lol I’ve had a couple of awkward things like this with my ex and my fiance’s ex. When I saw my ex I reacted the same way you did!
Mine – me and my fiance were grocery shopping and he kept grabbing me and making me laugh and some guy turned around to look at us and it was my ex husband. I got this horrible weird feeling all over and just turned around. My poor fiance had no idea what I was doing! I was scared my ex would say something stupid and my fiance wouldn’t react well… he’s super calm normally but something about my ex really gets him riled up. Plus, I don’t want to see the guy. Ever.
His ex – I was going to the pet store and I saw a super cute dog and was about to say something to the owner.. until I saw the owner and realized it was my fiance’s ex-wife and that was the dog that my fiance bought for her when they were married. Awkward! Glad I realized that before I said something to her because she definitely knows who I am! I ended up just kind of hiding out at the back of the store until she was done.