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She's catty. She sounds like a witch who is treating you like a child. Kill her with kindness....
Geez, I think getting your thank-you cards out in under a week is an accomplishment! :)
This is astoundingly rude to me. I would just send them in your own time. Seriously, my mouth dropped open reading this.
ETA: the calling after bothers me less than her having your guests address their own envelopes so you "have no excuse." That's the part that floors me.
Wow, that sounds super rude to me! You do have a life, you know, that doesn't revolve around sending out THANK YOU CARDS!!!!
That's crazy!
I'd also tell her she's rude for making guests fill out addresses....
Wow - out of line! I hate the whole 'write your addresses' thing. It is presumptuous (that everyone would even bring a gift) and it's as if you wouldn't do it unless half the work was already done for you. Send your FAIL (very appropriate in this case) her card now and get the rest out within the week and stop picking up her calls or deflect to FI.
Your FAIL sounds a kinda crazy to me. At least she isn't your FMIL. :)
That's insane. I feel like getting the notes out within a week is better than 99% of people. I'd stop taking her calls for a while.
i doubt she means to be mean or catty... i think its nice of her to throw u the surprise party and while it is a bit irritating for her to be pushy i dont think she deserves to be called rude and catty just because she wants u to send out the thank-yous right away.. IN the end it reflects well on you the sooner u can get them out and not on her.
She might just be trying to be helpful. I know when I get excited about things my actions sometimes come off as nagging. Hopefully she's just happy and helpful and really is not trying to be rude.
It's like, she could at least give you a chance to do the right thing before she gets on your case. She gives you 24 hours post event before she starts coming at you about how you're rude? It's not reasonable. No reasonable party guest would be cranky to not receive your TY card within the week. Several weeks later, a month later... then maybe.
She is being a little intense but honestly i wouldnt worry about it unless she continues to chastise you later on after the fact. Your gonna mail them out tomorrow, they CANT go out any sooner so why worry. Like someone already said...kill her with kindness
Thanks ladies. The cards are all done, going out tomorrow. I'll have to wait and see her reaction. I just find it odd that this seems so important to her. Its not like I have poor manners, if she hadn't taken it upon herself to be on my case the notes would still be going out tomorrow. It bothers me that shes going to think the only reason they went out was because of her.
I had the "write your name on the envelopes" thing at my shower, and I thought it was great. Caught a few people that hadn't given me their addresses for the invites, and made it easier to send thank yous.
My shower hostess also used them to draw names for some prizes throughout the party, so she made it clear to write one even if you didn't bring a gift.
ETA - calling you to follow up the next day is a bit much.
@SapphireSun - Your right it is helpful BUT she made a point to tell everyone to include it with the gift before the shower. Then she made a point to tell me I had no excuses. It just seems overkill to me.
geez!!
I actually wouldnt mind your FAIL for me in this instant.. my wedding was a month ago.. I got half way through writing the thanks yous and still havent written the rest... I need a motivator!
lol
But serious..... catty much? gee whiz.
@Ms.Charleston Pearls: no for sure announcing to put it with your gift is a little much. Especially at an engagment party, there isn't as much expectation that people would bring a gift as at a shower.
@ccranetobe: we got married July 9th and haven't started yet. I wanted to do a card with a wedding photo on it, so we delayed until the pro pics came back. I've ordered them now, but kind of wish I'd just gone ahead with normal cards.
@SapphireSun: I thought I was being really good in at least starting them! lol I wanted to include a picture but thats only now after I have the normal cards. Dont think we can win can we.
Anyway ettiquite says you can send them within the year, past past a year is bad!
FAIL...LOL!!!!
I just thought it was kind of weird for her to tell everyone to include an envelope with the address. Wow. Just wow. *shakes head*
xoxo,
Fen
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My future aunt in law threw me and FH a surprise engagement party. Yay! It was super cute and very thoughtful. Well she took the liberty of instructing everyone to include an envelope with their address on it with their gifts so that "I wouldn't have an excuse not to send a thank you card". She also called me the next day to ask if I'd mailed them yet. (I had not) The party was Saturday and I am finishing up the thank yous tonight so they'll be in the mail tomorrow. FAIL (hehe I love how that abbreviation works out), called me and basically demanded to know why they weren't already in the mail. Am I being ridiculous or is this women being very catty?