(Closed) Un-Bridesmaiding?

posted 8 years ago in Bridesmaids
  • poll: Can I un-bridesmaid the FSIL?
    Yes, just give her a new role in the wedding, like a reading : (3 votes)
    23 %
    No; it's not worth the drama : (9 votes)
    69 %
    No, and you should probably ask other FSIL's as well : (1 votes)
    8 %
  • Post # 3
    Hostess
    18646 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2009

    I’m worried that taking her out of the bridal party is going to cause bad blood between you and his family.  I don’t know if you want to deal with that for possibly years.

    Post # 5
    Member
    5154 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: June 2010

    It will be annoying but I say keep her in your bridal party. That way, on your wedding day, you will be able to relax and not have to worry about drama happening on YOUR day.

    Good luck 🙂

    Post # 6
    Member
    1046 posts
    Bumble bee

    yeah.. even if she is being an uber bitch that would cause some serious problems for you. I had the opposite problem; out of a feeling of obligation I asked hubby’s sister to be a bridesmaid only to have her tell me that “she didn’t really feel like being a bridesmaid afterall” 14 weeks before the wedding with no time to have her replaced because the dress wouldn’t be in on time. 

    Just bite your tongue and bear it as difficult as it may be… the beginning of a marriage is not the time to start a feud! Thats what besties and weddingbee are for. Vent girl, vent! lol

    Post # 7
    Member
    277 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    I think it depends on how far away the wedding is and how much she has done (bought the dress/ planned any parties) if not, then I think it’s ok to say you thought about it and you didn’t really want any bridesmaids at all (considering you never asked her) and just ask her to do something else at your wedding. but if the dress has been purchased it’ll be hard to just drop her without any really bad feelings.  

    Also keep in mind if you make a big fuss you might end up having to be in her wedding party if you didn’t want to in the first place.

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