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When your time comes, it will be well worth the wait. Trust me. I dated my FH for 6.5 years before he proposed (dating since we were 17) and to be honest, if he would have proposed sooner things wouldn't have been as good as they are now. I'm not saying that we are perfect, but we are in a much better position now than we were before.
Ugh! That must have really brightened your day... (insert eye-rolling here).
I feel like I'm averaging 1-2 friends or acquaintances per week getting engaged. And you know that like you I feel that *I* should be engaged before any of *them*.
This waiting thing is TOUGH.
Try not to compare yourself to other peoples relationships, it will drive you insane. I had a friend who was so desperate to have her BF propose to her that when I told her I went to go look at engagement rings with my now FI she didn't talk to me for 6 months. He BF did eventually propose but after I got engaged she told me that she was gald I waited to get engaged until after she got engaged. Needless to say her and her FI are no longer together. Try not to focus to much on getting engaged and focus more on how lucky you are to find the person you are going to spend the rest of your life with. BTW my FI and I were together for 4 years before we got engaged and I am glad we waited.
Awww, hugs. I know it can be rough. Can you maybe find a new project to focus all your energy on so you won't think engagement too much?
Just know that you will be spending the rest of your lives together and thats all that matters, but it must be hard at the same time to see your friends engaged, hopefully he will come through soon!
if it makes you feel any better, the day i got engaged and told a few friends, not one but TWO replied with, "i have news, too! i'm pregnant!" nothing trumps engagement excitment more than babies ...
when it's your time, just remember that everyone will be excited for YOU and you'll have your moment & well-deserved attention. and on the bright side, (unlike your two girlfriends) you won't have to share your engagement day with someone else! :) chin up, girl!
Thanks bees! I keep hearing from friends that MY engagement is the one everyone is waiting on, like BF and I are the main event and everyone else is just the side show (friend's analogy not mine hahaha).
@fuschia- I am in the same situation and a lot of couples have gotten engaged around us..that have been dating less time or just kind of unsure relationships...so in a way I think our engagement will be "the main event" like you said! Thats a great way to look at it :) That just made me feel better too!
awww poor thing! I know how it feels (We all do!) Thankfully noones gotten engaged around me for a while...
I'm going to tell you girls a little secret.
Until you get engaged, you think about it CONSTANTLY and everytime you attend a wedding, you cry for the bride and groom and for a brief second, you look over at your BF and may even shed a tear in frustration because it hasn't happened to you yet.
Waiting is the worst thing in the world. Honestly, I don't see how you girls can log on here every day, read about weddings, and sit and wait, Had I known about this site before I got engaged, I would have gone nuts.
Here is the secret though, the second you get engaged, all of those feelings just disappear. You become so entangled in wedding plans, comparing ideas with fellow brides, etc that you honestly forget what that feeling ever felt like. (Definitely a good thing, but still). You actually get so deep in decisions and stress from trying to make everyone happy that there will be times you MISS the waiting. Crazy right?!
I really don't think that anyone in their right mind would come and start posting on this board if they didn't have a very significant boyfriend knowing that it the proposal would come soon.... keep your chins up ladies, it will come. A lot of guys want it to be a total surprise, which is great when it happens, but horrible until it does.
Keep your chins up, keep being the fabulous ladies that you are, try not to get upset when it seems like everyone around you is getting engaged, IT WILL BE YOUR TURN SOON!!!!! And we all can't wait until you announce that you are off the waiting list!!
@MrsLouboutin: thanks for the good words. I know that I never look at any of the boards except Waiting-- there's no way I could handle looking at all that wedding stuff while in waiting! I can say with all honesty that waiting is the most emotionally difficult thing I have ever done. It physically hurts.
@Mrs. Louboutin - So true!
Ladies, I feel for each of you that is waiting right now. It's such a hard place to be in. But, I would encourage you to focus on enjoying this time of dating your BF. Like Mrs. L said, as soon as you get engaged, you will be thrown into a flurry of wedding planning chaos. When DH and I were engaged, there were times that I felt like wedding planning consumed and defined us and I actually said a few times - I miss when we were dating! From that point on, we worked on setting aside date nights where no wedding planning was discussed.
With that said, your time will come (hopefully soon!!!). Enjoy dating your BF without the insanity of the wedding always in the background.
Best wishes to each of you! 
Mrs. L: I really appreciate your words, truly!
With that said (wink wink) @fusciasparkles I totally relate. I have a VERY good friend who has only been with her fiance for a little over a year (I've been with my SO almost 4) and she got engaged and is getting married in June. I'm the last of my girlfriends to get married and for a while it really bugged me. However, in talking to another close friend she said that everyone is really looking forward to our wedding because we ARE the last and we ARE so close as a couple (I must say, we're pretty awesome LOL) so noone has reservations about our wedding, there aren't the "Are they sure?!" thoughts.
People ask me all the time "When is it your turn??" and I used to get really upset and think "Yeah! When is it MY turn?" but I've come to the conclusion that I am happier with my BOYFRIEND than many of my friends are with their husbands. Just take your life and look at the bright side, be happy to have an amazing boyfriend and realize that yes, you will get married and you will be very happy! (Even if it's hard sometimes) :)
Ugh, that stinks!
3 years ago, BOTH of my roommates got engaged within 3 wks of each other, and so my homelife was nothing but wedding planning. It's not fun, I know=(
I know it's hard, esp. when you've been together longer than other couples, but it WILL happen. And when it does, it won't even matter how long you had to wait! :)
Ahh Im LOVIN' the encouragement! I feel better and I know it will happen someday soon :) Thanks for all the wise words and advice, ya'll are the best!!!
oh ladies - hang in there!! huge hugs to all of you. i've been through it all, and it's true - when it is finally your turn, it will be awesome and all of the anger and frustration disappears (well, at least most if it, or it may get redirected towards your mom who's never been married and tells you what she wants at YOUR wedding :)) disappears! i have to say i'm still super thrilled and enjoyed our very long engagement....remember that the most important thing is that you're going to end up with your mister wonderful!
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TWO friends engaged in one day!! And of course both couples are younger and dated less time than me and BF. ::sigh:: I try to hide my emotion bc i dont want BF to feel like crap but he can see right thru me. I know BF is trying and saving when he can, it just maaaajorly sucks!!!! ugh.