- 3 years ago
- Wedding: December 2013
My sister is younger, and has always been my mom’s little baby. Nowadays, she’s 24, has a child, and is still living at home with my mom. My father died about 4 years ago, and I have been there for my mom 100% since. When my sister got pregnant, I threw her the biggest and best jungle-themed baby shower possible. I have been with my fiancee for 5 years, and my family loves him.
We were engaged last summer, and when I told my mom and sister that I was engaged, they simply said “finally”. Initially, I had planned to have our wedding on my mom’s acreage, but after trying very hard to plan it with no help from my mom or sister, and my fiancee telling me that my family would probably let me down come the wedding day, we decided to have a destination wedding instead. Upon news of a destination wedding, my family said that they would not attend unless we held the wedding in a place where THEY wanted to go.
I had to BEG my mom/sister to look through wedding magazines with me when I was trying to decide what dresses to shop for, and they didn’t even pretend to be enthusiastic about it. I have recently moved to town and I don’t have friends here to go wedding dress shopping with. My mom and sister refuse to go dress shopping with me, saying that they have to work. Under normal circumstaces I would understand this, but they run the family business and make their own schedule. I try to be flexible anout the dress shopping day and reschedule it for a day that’s good for them, but they won’t give me a day that they can go. I’m getting the impression that they just don’t want to.
Initially when we booked our destination wedding, I wanted our family to all fly to the destination together, and the online booking sites were being uncooperative. My mom suggested that I phone air canada and just book all the flights together on my credit card, and that she and my sister would pay me back. I booked it on my credit card, but that was 8 months ago and they still have not even attempted to pay me back a single penny for the flights. I also paid the deposit for their room at the resort, which I have not seen a penny of either.
Not that I was expecting these things either, but there have been no congratulations, no engagement parties, no wedding/MOB/bridesmaid dress shopping trips, no bachelorette parties, NOTHING. It hurts to even say it out loud to myself, but I really think that they just plain DON’T CARE in the slightest little bit about my wedding, or about my feelings.
Recently, my mom stopped speaking to me altogether because of an (un-wedding related) argument. Last straw for me… I’m tired of trying so hard to have a happy wedding with my family there while they are resisting so much. Should I just cut my losses and un-invite them to the wedding?