Post # 1
So i am Catholic and so is my SO but we are not getting married in the church. So i was wondering what happens with the officiant? We were thinking about a freind getting you know one of those one day things from the judge or clerk but i hvae no idea how we are supposed to run the wedding. even if we have a regular licensed officiant how would things run?! HELP!!!
Post # 3
We had a ceremony that wasn’t in a church and a non religious officiant. She helped us to run the ceremony itself and even though she wasn’t at the reception, she helped with placement before the ceremony started.
Post # 4
Yep I’m doing the same, I’m non practising Catholic and we’re having a civil ceremony and a protestant blessing. Have you thought about perhaps going down the Episcopal route? Some Episcopal priests will marry you outdoors or at a venue of your choice.
Post # 5
I haven’t thought about that. BUT my family is really Catholic and i wouldn’t feel right about going the Episcopal route. I know that by not having it in the church i am still not “being” very Catholic but i wouldnt be “using” another denomination. :-/ So i was thinking of having my cousin be our officiant and i think that all i have to do is get him “ordained” (or whatever you would call it) by having a clerk or judge give him the ordination. i think. (and sorry about my use of words-i don’t know if a couple of my words are even words.)
Post # 6
it really depends on what is important to you. for instance we are having a baptist minister marry us even though FH is catholic and im baptist. why? we are both christians. and it was important to us.
so if its the whole “sanctioned by God” thing that bothers you – it is okay to get married in another christian church – its the same core beliefs – the “rules” are just slightly different.
now if you dont care either way – check with the rules and laws in your area where you are getting married to what you are allowed to do. then if you want a friend to get ordained online or something do so. there are tons of resources that are out there to help you write a ceremony.
remember its YOUR wedding. so what you want, goes.
another thought is that alot of states have a law that a notary, judge or clergy can officiate. and there are some clergy who are leinient in who performs that marrige as long as they are there to witness it and sign the paperwork.
Post # 7
@spaganya, I agree on the Christian is Christian school of thought, that’s why we’re having our blessing 🙂 I also agree it’s entirely up to the individual and @pepsodiny if you want your cousin to be your officiant, you go for it!
I live in Scotland so I’m not up to scratch on US laws regarding a person becoming ordained, however as @spaganya say’s, I’m sure if you contact your local authority they will be more than happy to help 😉 x