Post # 1
- Wedding: May 2014 - alder manor
Anyone else tired of how demanding NYC and its surrounding area is to live and work? My SO has not had a day off since Thanksgiving. We leave the house at 5.30am and don’t get home until 6pm every day Monday thru Friday. Most of the time I’m ok with this, but this week, with the holidays……. I’m soooooo depressed with it all! Wish we could pack up and leave. Having one day off for Christmas, just is not enough. sigh…….
Post # 3
@Merlin29: Hugs. I feel you. This town can be intense with its priorities.
Post # 5
@Merlin29: sorry you feel this way.I grew up in NYC. That’s why I moved though. I now leave my house around 8 and I’m home at 6. I have weekends off and I had 2 days for thanksgiving (so a 4 day weekend) and 3 for Christmas so I took another 3 and now I have a week and a half total off. I wouldn’t trade this for the world. You won’t get quality of life in NYC. You just won’t. It’s a different mentality. Success in NYC is called based off how much you work. If you don’t value that, you probably don’t belong in NYC. No amount of money is worth to me giving up time with family.
Post # 6
I totally relate! I feel like I have fallen behind in work when I try to get wedding stuff done, and vice versa. The end of the year was SO busy work wise that I have done NOTHING (except freak out and thought about eloping) wedding wise because there is just no time for it! I think we are back on track to actually have the wedding in NYC on 10/25/14. Now we just need to make lists and try to get it done little by little. A glass (or bottle) of wine helps! Hang in there!
Post # 7
yes it takes SO MUCH ENERGY just to go to work, home, errands etc. Im going to bust a move outta here in a few years!
Post # 8
YES. By the time I schlep home I am beat. I would love to know how people have so much energy to go out and do things during the week. We eat dinner around 9 and I am cooked. We thought of moving to the suburbs and commuting in, but I can’t imagine what a longer commute would do to me.
Post # 9
@Merlin29: I totally feel you. I work for a school where we are supposed to have “easier” hours, yet I still work 7 day weeks in the summer while many work even more than I do.
Both DH and I are frustrated by how there is no reward to working/living in the NYC area so we are moving to Texas this year. Better quality of life from what I’m hearing.
Post # 10
My SO lives and works in NYC. I’m from the UK, and I get 22 days of paid holiday a year – which isn’t out of the ordinary here whatsoever. It constantly surprises me how little time you guys get off, and honestly, I’m terrified I won’t be able to adapt when I move there to be with him. I’ve got used to being able to have a summer holiday and taking the whole week around Christmas off.
How do you guys cope?
Post # 11
I hear you….On a normal day I leave my house at 7:30am and get home at 7-7:15pm. And if I go to the gym in my office in the mornings….I leave at 5:45am and get home at 7-7:15pm. Ugh!
Probably will have a change once we have kids bc I can’t do this many more years!
Post # 12
I hear you all! I just started working in NYC after working in another state and I am absolutely amazed at how much people work around here. It’s like there is a competiton as to who can stay at the office the longest. I always feel bad when I leave before everyone else, but I’m used to having a life outside of the office and I want that to continue. I don’t know how long that will last though 🙁
Post # 13
@Merlin29: I hate it here. The FI and I are working tirelessly to get out of NYC. We’re going to Vermont hopefully in the next few months. It’s gorgeous there with lots of space and a small population.
I’ve been here for 9 years, I came right out of college from the midwest. It was fun for about 5. Now….I’m over it.
Post # 14
- Wedding: June 2012 - Franklin Plaza
YUUUUP! That’s why my husband and I packed it up and moved to North Carolina. We couldn’t take it anymore and I have to say, we are so much happier now. I really, really feel for you guys and I hope you find a happier work/life balance soon.
Post # 15
- Wedding: May 2014 - Madison, WI
I hear similar things from FBIL all the time. He is always saying how over NYC he is and he is so ready to leave but his FI has no desire to leave. He said if she was willing he would be in SoCal tomorrow! I feel for him sometimes, I know he envies the large apartment I can afford in WI compared to what “shoebox” they can afford for twice as much money in NYC. Regardless of where he lives though he’s a “big city” guy and I think it will always be expensive, he’s just ready for change and would love to live in a year round warmer climate.
Post # 16
This place sucks the soul out of you, chews you up, and spits you out. We need to move.
I’m always amazed when I meet people who say they would never live anywhere else.