- 5 years ago
This is my first post and its going to seem like a huge rant!
Im not getting married for a while yet, but i wanted my two cousins to be my bridesmaids. We’ll call them Apple and Banana
Apple is great, we recently lost her brother…our younger cousin and i told all my cousins, this is the time we hold each other tight because you never know whats around the corner.
We were all very close growing up then started our own lives…while i did keep trying to be apart of Bananas life, it just wasnt happening. I would make plans and last minute she couldnt make it. I text her, call her, Iv invited her for dinner and 7months later…im still waiting. Her mum (my aunt) seems to think im the problem and im ‘bitchy’…okay?
We organized a day to go dress shopping, Apple came…but Banana couldnt because her boyfriend was sick. We rescheduled and second time…banana was a no show which left me on my own, no reason as to why she couldnt make it, i guess she just forgot?
Deep down, i know she’ll be helpful on the day and will get involved. When i have a problem, i message her and she’ll be like ‘ill always support you, its your day!’ but then i find out she tells all my little secrets and rants to my aunty and then my mum gets involved…this stuff is personal! This isnt a day for me to spend $500+ on her just to look pretty…on my fiances and I’s day!
Whats going to happen closer to the day…will she turn up for dress fittings, will she stay in contact with me after the wedding? I dont want my kids asking why im not close to my cousin when they see our wedding photos. FH is only having ONE on his side because none of his friends are really that close to him.
I am just over reacting? I know this isnt a bridesmaid problem, this is also a family problem but i want her to apart of my life and i dont know how many times i need to tell her before it becomes obvious! Should i just suck it up to keep the peace within the family or tell her how i feel and it would be better shes a guest.
I have no idea and need advice! Sorry if this seems long.