Unbelievably stressed

posted 3 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
Member
3394 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

@Nikwissman:  I feel for you. I had a horrible relationship with my in-laws from my first marriage. A few years after our wedding my then SIL told me (during a discussion about what their mother’s problem is) that I really hurt my MIL when I cut her out of the wedding planning. 1) I paid for our entire wedding on my own. 2) When we got engaged my future MIL was out of state and didn’t return until 2 months before our wedding. We also had many incidents where my then MIL told my then husband that I had said or done things that never, ever happened. I’m pretty sure she was insane. I can’t lie, I’m really not sorry that she’s not my MIL anymore. My exH’s whole family put a lot of stress on our marriage. Not that everything would have been peachy if they had been nice to me, but their interferrence sure didn’t help anything.

All I can say that this situation is tough and it will result in a lot of hurt feelings. As long as you and your husband love each other and he doesn’t give in to his family’s tantrums you two should be able to overcome it. The best thing to do is try to accept that they are the way they are. Crying over it won’t help anything. I know it’s hard, but you can do it.

Post # 4
Member
3618 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@Nikwissman:  that is tough and I wish I had some great advice that could cure all of this mess! Do you think you could live with it your whole life? Is you FI worth this? I can’t say that relationships between in laws should be perfect but they should at least be civil…I have always gotten along with my darling MIL and I can’t imagine it being any other way. We are oddly too close but I can’t picture a life with us not even being able to tolerate each other. No matter what you decide it will be for the best. Take a deep breath and think about everything SUPER carefully. It is better for a bride to run away half down the aisle then it is for a bride to walk straight towards a divorce. Don’t rush into any conclusions and speak openly to your FI about where he stands. Do what feels right

 

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