(Closed) Uncle makes racist comments and cousin is just rude! Why must I invite them?

posted 5 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2013

For all the reasons your listed above, I wouldn’t invite them. This could cause some rifts in your family but so could a sloppy drunk or racist comments toward your fiance, his religion or his culture.

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

Don’t invite them. Etiquette is stressed a lot on this board, but I honestly feel that etiquette rules don’t include racist a-holes.  Your concerns about them being there seem pretty valid, and  I personally would rather have two racists be mad at me than risk hurting the feelings of my future in-laws.

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

Psh. You don’t HAVE to invite anyone. Leave those nasty people to themselves and only invite people who are loving and supportive to your wedding.

Post # 6
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

I definitely would not invite them. You shouldn’t have to deal with things like that at the dinner, especially with the risk that they may offend your FI or his family. I’d calmly,but firmly, explain your reasons to your mother and stand your ground on it.

Post # 7
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463 posts
Helper bee

I agree with the other posts. Its YOUR day–you don’t have to invite anyone who makes you uncomfortable, or talks badly about you and your fiance. Simply, the people who deserve to be there, will be invited, and those who dont, shouldn’t be. 🙂

Post # 8
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

Don’t invite them if you don’t think they will behave.

And also, people will probably have more sympathy for you, if you quite judging your cousin for being engaged and not getting married anytime soon.  Just sayin’

Post # 10
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2012

You don’t have to invite anyone you don’t want to!

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