Post # 1
So this is slightly confusing, but I am writing thank you notes (yay good for me!) and came upon a head-scratcher. My aunt G and Uncle R wrote us a check that I can only assume is from both of them, as my aunt signed both of their names on the card, she always signs for him. However, my uncle has avoided me ever since I converted to a different religion a few years ago, and because I married someone not from his religion, he chose not to attend the ceremony or the reception, even though he had traveled to Chicago (where our wedding was) anyway to be with family, ALL of whom came to our wedding, and 3 of his grandkids were in our wedding party.
So in the thank you note, do I write it to both of them and thank them for the gift and thank my aunt for coming to the wedding? Or do I thank them for the gift and not mention coming to the wedding? What a weird situation.
Post # 3
I would just say thank you for the gift. Sorry he didn’t show at the wedding. His loss not yours
Post # 4
I think I would send a card thanking them both for the gift and thanking your aunt for attending. It’s not like it’s any big secret she attended and she’ll appreciate the gesture.
Post # 5
You should ignore his rudeness, and send a lovely thank you note to both of them.
Post # 6
I agree, send a note to both of them thanking them for the gift. Maybe tell your aunt that it was great seeing her at the reception and you hope you can see them both again soon!
Post # 7
I agree send the note to both.
Post # 8
agreed w. naangel55 and tessabella – thank both for gift, thank aunt for attendance. dont mention uncle not showing – his loss.
and yes – a little weird, but still nice that aunty sent a gift!