Unconventional Wedding?

posted 2 years ago in 20 Something
Post # 2
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6347 posts
Bee Keeper

We are having a private ceremony and then a small wedding celebration, all by choice. If your parents want to include all of your family, then they should be footing the bill. If someone complains about your wedding size, just cite your financial approach. If you’re going to have a small wedding, make sure you methodically include/exclude people (e. g. only aunts and uncles, no cousins). It’s YOUR wedding; you have every right to make these decisions. Good luck!

Post # 3
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180 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

Our wedding will be intimate as we’re inviting 38 people to the ceremony and 20 extra for the reception. That’s all we can afford as we’re paying for the wedding ourselves. I’ve always wanted a small wedding with just close family and friends. We’re not having a live band or DJ, just an ipod. I don’t mind because I’m just looking forward to getting married to my FI. I’m pretty much making most things myself and am saving lots of cash that way. It also feels more personalised and fun! Sometimes I get envious that other brides can afford massive weddings and decorations but I am happy with what we’ve planned so far for next June. 

You will sometimes feel envious of what you can’t have, but it doesn’t matter because your day will be amazing anyway. Good luck! 🙂

Post # 4
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41855 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

If you want to keep the wedding small, pick a small venue. The capacity of the venue then dictates the guest list.

If you are open to a larger guest list, but want to keep the cost down, consider alternative receptions:brunch, tea and cake, BBQ, picnic etc are all perfectly valid ways to host your guests without the expense of a traditional dinner and dance.

Post # 5
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83 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: December 2014

TR3XO:  Me and my FI are having civil ceremony at city hall with only immediate family. I am estranged from my abusive family as well so my mother and sister will not be attending (my father passed away a few years ago) My FI’s parents and sister will be in attendance as well as his nephews and two of our close friends. Afterwards, we are having a dinner reception at a restaurant near us where some more family and friends will join us. The party room only holds 30 people so as you can imagine many people will not be invited. My FI and I agreed on the guestlist together so if anyone is upset they were not invited its nothing personal we were just limited financially and space wise. 

Again, your wedding should be about you and your FI. I wanted to handpick everyone that would be there. So that everyone there is someone I WANTED there. Not that I invited them out of obligation or pity. Do what feels right to you guys and enjoy yourselves!

I hope this helps. Best of luck! 

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