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Uncooperative Bridesmaid?

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    msprettyinpink    September 6, 2009   San Diego

    Hi Hive!

    In addition to planning my own gig, I'm my friend's wedding coordinator. 

    She has decided on a BM gown from David's bridal that will be discontinued within the next two months. All of her other BM have gotten their dresses except one, who happens to be her future sister in law. 

    She's not particularly close to this future in law, rather the sister is part of the wedding mainly to smooth things over between the families. 

    I've sent an email and the bride has probably sent 3. I don't want to bombard the bridesmaid with too many emails but I'm not sure how to motivate her to purchase her dress. 

    Any ideas? 

     
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    bruschetta    August 29, 2009   Philadelphia

    Maybe email's not the best way to communicate with her.  I have, like, four Gmail addresses I maintain for different reasons (no joke), and don't always check them all consistently. 

    Someone should try giving her a call!

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    Yes, I'm not sure why people have forgotten personal visits or telephone calls, but if you want to get ahold of people, e-mail isn't a good way...

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    ErinMarguerite    July 2009   DC Area

    I second that!  My FSIL never responds to emails.  I'm about 80% sure she reads them, but I think she's sent me 4 emails over the last 5 years.  Pick up the phone and call her.  I'd tell her that the dress is only available for a coulple of months.  If she doesn't say something like "Oh, I need to get over there" you could offer to pick up her size and she can pay you "whenever we see each other next."  

    If you can't get ahold of her by phone, have your friend try mentioning it to her FMIL, who might be able to put the pressure to her.

     
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    FutureMrsMorgan    May 9, 2009   Los Angeles, CA

    did you give her a date to purchase the dress by? if yes, then i wouldnt stress it too much.  if she doesnt buy her dress, this may be her way of getting out of being in the wedding. 2 of our GMs have not reserved their tuxes for my wedding in 8 DAYS.  I assume that means that they are not coming and Im not going to call them or offer to pay for anything...but this may be too harsh a stand for you.  give her a call and leave one message, if she doesnt take care of it after that, youve done your duty.

     

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