Underdressed grooms?

posted 2 years ago in Grooms/men
Post # 2
497 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

yes.  Really dont like seeing the mismatch in styles at all.

Post # 3
277 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

I think that both people should be dressed in what is comfortable for them. 

I am not picking out what my guys or bridesmaids wear. This is an event to celebrate our relationship, not a matchy matchy fashion show of my creation. So I am just happy to have the people I love there. 

Come as you are… =) 

Post # 4
894 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

The mismatch bothers me too.  Kind of like a tilted picture on the wall or something. 

Post # 5
318 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

I hate seeing grooms in flip flops unless it’s super casual beach wedding and even still Bare feet look funny to me.

Post # 6
2428 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

We were one of those couples you’re talking about, minus the glitter  We liked it!

Post # 7
851 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013


Tincangirl:  I personally think that the bride and groom should be dressed the same…. I think this comes across the best to guests attending the wedding. I also think it photograph’s better as well.

While I am a fan of the “matching” look a bride has the right to have the wedding she wants……


Post # 8
655 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2014 - SPRING VALLEY COUNTRY CLUB

Well, For the ceremony he wore a formal tux that matched the bridesmaids. for the reception him and his groomsmen changed. They wore black vest, red bowties, and red sneakers. All of these men are avid sneaker collectors. I thought it was a great idea to let let his personality show through on our wedding day. I think the mis matched thing is a matter of personal taste. nothing wrong with either choice.

Post # 9
263 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

Tincangirl:  Me personally, I want my groom to be dressed to the nines! We’ve already talked about it and we’ve decided that he will wear a three piece gray tux (he will look so handsome!). Some weddings are a lot more casual than ours will be so for casual weddings I don’t think there is anything wrong with the groom wearing some nice slacks and a button up shirt. I think it just depends on the couple.

Post # 10
98 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

I don’t think my man needs to west a tux, but a nice suit would be nice. Even more for him who would feel uncomfortable being underdressed compared to me. But whatever he finds comfortable I’m OK with.

Post # 11
7055 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I think the bride and groom can wear whatever they want.

The only exception would be if the bride let the groom choose, and she didn’t expect him to dress casual but he did. That would be a big letdown if I was the bride.

But if they’re both on board with it – more power to them. I’ve seen a casual dressed groom with a bride in a traditional wedding dress. It suited him and it was perfect.

Post # 12
667 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June, 2014

My husband was underdressed in comparison to me, but I’ve never seen him in a formal dress shirt, let alone a tux. I thought he looked very handsome. He also changed into jeans, sneakers, and a long sleeved tee shirt for the reception, while I was still in my wedding dress. Had he told me that before, I would have had a casual reception dress with me. Oh well. Frankly, almost no one remembers or cares what anyone wears to a wedding or reception. 

Post # 13
21 posts
  • Wedding: October 2015

If your wedding is casual, and you’re both dressed a bit more casually (tea length dress, very earthy reception theme), then it’s fine.

I don’t really like the mis-match, though. Communication is key. FI hasn’t seen The Dress, but he’s gotten a basic description from my friend that helped me pick it out. So he’s aware of how dressed up I’m going to be, and plans to match me. He jokingly said he feels like he can’t complain about a tux, when I’ll be in a body shaper, tightly-laced corset back dress, 25 pounds of dress, AND high heels. Lol!

Post # 14
439 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

I completely agree. The mismatched level of formality totally bothers me. And my groom is threatening to do it. I will be wearing a formal gown (ball gown but he doesn’t know that), and the bridesmaids are wearing long gowns too. But yet he really wants to wear a light colored suit and not a black suit or tux. He thinks he gets to decide these things without the bride. I am dying on the inside.


Post # 15
3249 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

If you’re wearing a ball gown, and you want to match formality, technically that calls for tails.  But, black suits aren’t actually particularl formal; charcoal or navy are the most formal suit colours (equally so).  Black is generally reserved for formal, and semi-formal attire.

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