(Closed) Underweight problem/rant

posted 4 years ago in Wellness
Post # 3
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

Honestly, I would go to a doctor. Being thin is one thing, but 95 pounds at 5’6″ leads me to believe something may be physically preventing you from gaining weight. If everything checks out, I’d ask for a referral for a nutritionist who can really look at your diet and figure out what will work for you. We can all suggest things like peanut butter and shakes and stuff, but I doubt it’s anything you hadn’t already thought of. 

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

I totally understand.  I have always been thin, and have a thyroid condition that makes it hard to gain weight.  I have studied nutrition, and here is what I would recommend…

Eat healthy fats (avocado, nuts & nut butters, olive oil).  Include them in lots of your meals and snacks.

Make sure you are eating 3-4 meals a day.  I used to “get busy” and forget to eat.  It doesn’t help the cause.

Try weight lifting to “bulk up.”

Eat healthy proteins, like eggs, beans, and low-fat dairy.

Good luck!

Post # 5
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

Ok I just looked at the pictures you posted 2 weeks ago from trying on dresses and I think you look lovely! You do not look 95 pounds if you’re 5’6″, I was expecting emaciated. You look thin, but not bony or anything. I still think a Dr/nutritionist may be helpful if you’re worried and have really tried to gain. Can you give us an idea of what your diet is like now? Do you know how many calories you eat daily?

Post # 6
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I highly reccomend protein shakes! Or really, just milkshakes… and make sure you’re eating all day AND having three sit down meals a day. Seriously sit-down.

 

I was like that when I was younger but seem to have mostly grown out of it now that I’m in my late-twenties. At one point I had to gain 15 pounds and it was a big job: I worked with a nutritionist to come up with a high calorie diet and started working out every day (not going for a run: going to the gym). I feel for ya, and I definitely struggled with not feeling womanly and sexy. The nutritionist was a god send and she never made me feel bad for wanting to gain weight or dismissed me.

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

I would check with the doctor as well for thyroid or estrogen issues.  If all else checks out, try adding in extra snacks like protein shakes, healthy fats, and some fruit.  Dairy would also help.  It is definitely easier for people to be envious of you for being so thin and unable to gain weight, but I understand it is a true problem and no easier than being overweight.  I wish you the best of luck at feeling like the best “you” on your wedding day!

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

what my docter said when i was younger and uber skinny (now im still very slim but not unhealthily so) is to buy those diet shakes – like slimfast – that are like meals in a can. that sounds counterproductive but you drink them *in addition* to your 3 square meals a day

i dont really put on weight but its ok because im a healthy weight now, just over 8 stone…so i think its 110 lbs at around 5’6/ but if i get stressed and start missing meals (find it hard to eat with high stress) then it can drop off easily

also muscle weighs more than fat so regular exercise can help – gets you toned too!

Post # 10
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2010

@shootznladrz89:  start drinking weight gain shakes carom a health food store. Lots of weight lighters use them to weight gain for muscle, but if you don’t work out they will just plump you up

Post # 11
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2013

@shootznladrz89:  Dress for your figure is my advice. Is there any celebrity with a similar body type that you admire? Maybe Kelly Ripa or Eva Longoria or Olivia Palermo or Rachel Bilson or Kate Bosworth?

Try layering. Or wearing styles with lots of prints and ruffles and stuff that adds bulk. If you have a model’s figure you’re built for fashionable clothes. Take advantage of that!

I’m on the other side of the fence… I’m not huge but I struggle to lose weight so yeah, I am having a hard time relating. I don’t eat *that* badly yet I have probably gained weight each year of my adult life 🙁 Could you do some weight lifting? I know it won’t add much bulk since you’re a chick, but it might give you some more definition.

Funny how the grass is always greener.

 

Post # 12
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

@shootznladrz89:  Oh, well I still would recommend a Dr’s visit and nutritionist. 

Post # 13
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2946 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 1998

@shootznladrz89:  to have lost that much weight since January I think you need to see a doctor as it could be your thyroid.  

Post # 14
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

I would abosultely see a docotor ASAP. You could have a serious unknown problem. 

Post # 15
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Worker bee

I am 5’5 and also 95 lbs i look my best at 110 but I just cannot gain it. I’ve tried the milkshakes muscle milk everything, nothing seems to work but I also take in small portions at a time about 5 times a Day. With work & stress its hard to gain also So I def feel your pain on not feeling womanly enough, but mainly due to my small chest :/ things like getting a tan and clothes that work for my shape as another pp said make me feel more confident maybe try that while trying to gain your weight back 🙂

Post # 16
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

I’m three inches shorter than you are, but I’ve had the same problems.  Is it safe to guess that you don’t have a very active lifestyle?  Muscle is more dense than fat, and even if you dont look any bigger or smaller, you will weigh more and have more in the way of curves.  What helped me was going to college: I ate bigger meals less frequently, ate healthier overall, skipped caffeine (though I have to do this for non-weight reasons as well) and exercised more– I had more exercise in a day even than when I was in marching band in high school (which involves a LOT of physical activity, and is pretty grueling) just by walking… then I started running/jogging.  

 

In detail, here’s what I did:
–I can’t recall exactly how many miles I walked in a day, but I had to walk around a large campus several times a day because my bike’s tires kept going flat and eventually I just locked it up and started walking to class. I also went running.  I lifted weights for a bit, but I’m a weakling and all the smaller weights kept getting taken.

–I ate more healthy fats as have been mentioned above.  One thing I didn’t know then, but know now, is to spike your food with olive oil.   I recall one Bee telling me that she started spiking her hubby’s food with it so he’d bulk up more easily, and he never tasted it.  I’m “almost vegetarian” so the salad dressings with more oil, and just eating more nuts, helped me.

–Skipping caffeine: I actually had to skip it because I was diagnosed with Tourette Syndrome my senior year of high school, but it’s also a stimulant that just makes you burn more calories than you have to.  It’s bad not just for those of us with very obvious and scary-looking tics, but for those of us trying to gain weight as well.

–Fewer meals, more frequently: I don’t advocate only eating one or two large meals a day, but I do recommend eating 3 square ones a day.  People trying to lose weight are told to eat 5-6 meals.  

–Protein shakes:  I tried them in high school, but they didn’t work because at the time I wasn’t very active (it was between marching band seasons).  They only work if you’re getting exercise.

–RELAX.  You’ve mentioned you’ve been very stressed out, but that’s probably why you’ve lost so much and can’t gain it back.  Do you have a tendency to undereat when stressed?  I know I do, and the best thing for me is to have a little something on hand– something small so you don’t feel like you’re forcing yourself to eat, but enough to get a little bit of food in you and calm you down.  People get cranky as their blood sugar dips, it happens.  That’s something I’ve had to work on too, because stress and poor eating habits can be a vicious cycle.  

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