- 3 years ago
- Wedding: Ancaster Mill
We are supposed to be getting married (weddingmoon) in the DR next June, but now I’m not sure it’s going to happen. No no, the marriage is not off, but the location might have to change. Let me give you a summary of what is going on…
We both have always wanted to have a small, intimate wedding, and the idea of having a destination wedding with only our closest family and friends was very appealing (on top of it requiring less planning than local weddings because of the all inclusive resort!) We booked the trip for the first week of June next year and were expecting 28 guests. I have started planning, buying items for my welcome bags, looked at dresses and bridesmaids dresses….Fast forward a few months and my dad ends up in the hospital for heart problems and newly discovered kidney cancer. He is home now and doing ok, considering the circumstances. The heart issues are controlled by medication for now, and he will be undergoing a nephrectomy within the next few weeks. They do expect him to fully recover from the procedure, there are no signs of it having metastasized. All this to say that there is a chance, a fair chance, that he won’t be able to travel next year (for those wondering, yes, he is expected to be alive next year). I don’t know if I would be able to go through with it if we were away for the wedding and he would have to stay home.
About half of our guests have put a deposit down already, 200$ each, which we would lose and I feel that I have to pay them back. Do a quick calculation and that’s a fair chunk of change, especially that we are on a tight budget to begin with. This means that we’d have an even lower budget now for a wedding that I would have to start planning from scratch again, and we probably wouldn’t be able to afford a honeymoon. But I feel too strongly about having my dad there. I think I have to do it. I’m a mess. I hope that our friends and family will understand. My mom and 3 bridesmaids are suportive, and the Mr understands too.
So that’s the decision that I have to make, and soon too. Sorry that this post wasn’t very exciting, but I felt like I needed to write.