Post # 1
Hi ladies! First post here and I need some advice!
See, my hubby and I got married just about two months ago, but we find ourselves in a bind. I’m 21, he’s 22 (yes, I know we’re babies!) and I’m the only one bringing in enough money to get us by. He WAS working on-call with a repo company (he has his license and had partnered up with a family member, but we ALL know what happens when you mix business and family!), but hasn’t had any work, and as such, any checks, in over 3 months. We got married in a courthouse, planning for a larger wedding in the fall of 2013, but now that he’s not working (and seemingly not trying to find work) I feel my sanity slowly slipping!
See, he worked BEFORE that with a company involved in the music industry (something along the lines of two-way radios and lighting), for a good two years, and we both thought he was set. He LOVED his job, even though his boss (another family member…grr…) started paying him for less hours than he was working. He’s trying to get back into that industry with a different company, but nothing has come through.
I’m tired. Dead tired. Being in college and working an entry-level marketing during the day and doing notaries at night doesn’t cut it. I’ve sold off the last of my DSLRs (former photography major here), my laptop, I’ve even taken a loan out to facilitate car repairs. And I feel like everything I’m doing is just to enable him to stay home and do a whole lot of NOTHING! And with no internet at home or a cell phone, it’s not exactly like it’s easy for him to be on the grind looking for work. I love my husband more than words could ever convey, but I can’t do this alone! And he’s a virgo, so every conversation along these lines is a huge disaster!
Anyone out there trying to be a supportive wife right now too?
Post # 3
@stella_baby: What kinds of jobs is he applying to? He needs to get a job, as soon as possible, in whatever field comes along. What did he go to college for?
Post # 4
It sounds like a lot of stress on you. Can you take a few minutes out of each day to do something for you (savor a glass of wine, paint your nails, etc) to give yourself a few moments to breathe?
Offer him help work on his resume and suggest he hit the library or local job connect daily to apply for jobs online. Can you maybe get him a pay-as-you-go cellphone just for job searching? It’s hard to find a job without the basic tools and providing him with them takes away any excuses he may have.
Post # 5
I don’t know about you but that is UNACCEPTABLE. Is he handicapped? When me and DH first got together he worked for family roofing. Maybe he would work one day and maybe he wouldn’t. Not a steady flow of money. I got the newspaper, looked at the first ad which was a Taxi Cab company. I told him we were driving over there the next day and voila! He had a job. It’s not that hard. You do what you have to do, not what you like. I do not like my job. I do it because I have to and that is that! Bills need to be paid and YOU should not be taking care of him by any means unless he is sick.
There is work for the willing. There are work today get paid today places. Even a minimum wage job is better than nothing.
I know you can do this, encourage him to go out and be the MAN he should be.
Post # 6
@peachacid: right now, he’s putting in apps for hourly retail positions (anything to get some more cash flowing in) and also with some companies he used to be in contact with in his sound/lighting job. so far, only there may be something promising with one of his former work contacts. college was just not his cup of tea, but hopefully if nothing pans out soon he’ll be starting a trade school in september.
@aure: i made him a new, fresh resume, and i’ll be looking into one of those little cell phones from target or something. i don’t mind the expense as long as it can help his seasrch!
i appreciate the help ladies!