Post # 1
My Maid/Matron of Honor has been very depressed lately about finding a job. Currently she is unemployed but subsitute teaches when school is in session. I’m having trouble trying to talk to her about anything and trying to cheer her up is almost pointless. Although irrational, I sometimes think that she is mad at me because I have a job. Unfortunately, my wedding is 60 days aways and I really want her to be excited and happy but I think that all she sees is me spending all this money on wedding stuff and dwells on the fact that she’s unemployed. I’m starting to run out of ways to cheer her up. I try to take her to eat or get a pedicure but she gets mad when I want to pay.
Is there anything that I can do to help her out of this funk?
Post # 3
I too lost my job recently and it has been rough. It’ s been 2 months and finding another job is not easy. I can’t help but also be in the dumps. Been financially independent for years, was top of the world professional just a year ago…and now get laid off. It’s tough. It’s hard to understand what we go through until you are in our shoes. I dont think she’s mad that you because you have a job, she’s probably frustrated. Takes time. I know what she’s going through.
Post # 4
I think right now it’s best to cheer her up in ways that don’t cost money, or at least not much money. Watch dvds together or invite her over for pizza or something. I understnad her feeling upset when you take her out and then want to pay – it makes her feel pitied and like a charity case.