uneven guest list

posted 2 years ago in Reception
Post # 2
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

It is what it is. I had 8 tables and my husband had 6. It’s not as big of a difference, but there was nothing that we could do about it. It wasn’t awkward. No one really cared.

Post # 3
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2873 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

My DH’s guest list was less than one third of mine, and that is including the mutual friends we invited as his guests.  My family is HUGE (97 people for my dad’s side alone!) While my DH has a total of 4 cousins. For the ceremony we had a “pick a seat, not a side” policy, and for the reception, honestly, no one said anything and we didn’t really notice. 

Post # 4
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812 posts
Busy bee

Out of 50 invitations sent out 10ish were my FI friends and family. And his Friends are actually in the wedding….. He seems perfectly fine with it.

Post # 5
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380 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2015 - Historic house and gardens

We are having an intimate wedding of 30 guests. 6 are mine, the rest are FIs. It is what it is.

Post # 6
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3280 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

It doesn’t matter. I had 14 tables, DH had 10, our parents had 6. It really doesn’t matter 

Post # 7
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

DH had about 2 and I had 10, and 2 of mutual friends and it definitely stood out cause I’m Chinese and he’s white…. I dont think it looked odd at all…

Post # 8
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Bumble bee

daisy351:  Not awkward at all. I actually found it really sweet to see our families mingling during the reception. I had 2/3 of the guests from my side, my husband had about 1/3.

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2013 - Valparaiso, IN

You both come from a different family and background. It’s going to happen. My family is huge and very close, so (after cutting back) my list alone was 140. His was about 30 because his family isn’t close. It’s not awkward. It’s just how it is.

  • This reply was modified 2 years, 3 months ago by  MrsWoods47.
Post # 10
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2261 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

I have 4 tables (60 guests), my FI has 32 (the other 440 guests). No big deal…… As long as he has who he wants there, it doesn’t really matter 🙂

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

I don’t think it will be awkward. No one will probably even notice (you won’t have time to worry about it on the day of).

DH and I did a 50/50 split on our guest list, though.

Post # 12
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642 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

It won’t be awkward. It’ll be fine. My DH had 3 tables of family/family friends compared to my family/family friends taking up 12. Then we had maybe another 5 or 6 tables of our friends (so maybe that made it a little less so).

Honestly, no one is really going to notice/care – besides, people hardly even sat at their tables after dinner at our wedding….

Post # 13
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

Our guest list is very uneven as well. I can’t remember numbers exactly, but I’m sure FI’s list is 85-90% of it – as his parents have large families and know a lot of people. My families are small, and the rest is friends.

Everyone will have a great time, no matter what!

Post # 14
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

It will be fine!   My husband had 1.5 tables of guests and I had like 11.5 and it wasn’t awkward.  My husband has a much smaller family than mine and we got married in my home state (we are from different states), so a lot of his family and friends couldn’t come and  it definitely was uneven.  We made an effort to introduce his family to other guests, and I made sure the bridal parties were even.  That made me have fewer bridesmaids than I originally imagined (he was very set on 3), but I thought it would look weird for me to have so many more guests AND a bigger bridal party.  It ended up being a blessing- it was so much nicer and less stressful having a small bridal party.  As long as his guests don’t feel any less important it will be a beautiful wedding   

Post # 15
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

I’m going to have more guests than him, I have a bigger family and more close friends. I don’t think it’s a big deal

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