Post # 1
So when my fiance and I first got engaged we decided we wanted as small a wedding party as possible. I have 2 sisters and he has a sister and 2 brothers. We decided to ask one more of his friends so that it would be even. So all was good….
Then… He started thinking that if he asked that one college buddy… He really wanted to ask his other good friend from school. I didn’t want to be mean and controlling because it is his day too and he should have the people he wants. So we are uneven again. I don’t really want to ask any of my friends because I don’t want to ask someone just to ask someone. One of my really good friends is playing the ceremony music for us and my other friend really doesn’t want to be a BM anyway.
But now I am worrying about how the pictures will look with 3 girls and 4 guys. I am not about to revoke one of his friends’ groomsmen status… So I need to come to terms with how the pictures are going to look. Has anyone seen unever weddings and have any negative or positiv feelings???
Post # 3
We’re having uneven numbers too– dont’ worry, the pictures will look absolutely fine. 🙂 There aren’t that many pictures with just you two and the bridal party, and photogs nowadays do more inventive layouts than just lining everyone up in a straight line anyway. You might just want to mention it to your photographer, so that he/she can come up with more of a mix up style for your group shots.
Post # 4
Uneven bridal parties are happening a lot more now. I forget which Bee posted it, but one of them was in a wedding that had more guys, and the photographer did a really cute shot with all of them paired up, but she had two guys on her arms. I dont’ think an uneven party is a problem. And the girls aren’t outrageously outnumbered.
Post # 5
We are going to have 4 girls and 3 guys. A huge part of me wants to find a fourth guy so things are even in pictures (I kind of got forced into the fourth girl, but thats another story). However, the "third" groomsman is the kind of guy who is very funny, very personable, and he is loving the idea of having "a girl on each arm" when everyone walks the aisle after the ceremony, so I’m giving in and being ok with it.
Post # 6
@smokinpenelope – we too are having 4 girls and 3 guys. We are thinking about having the men already at the alter and then having all the women walk down the aisle by themselves, so it’s not lopsided. Otherwise, the 4th bridesmaid’s bf is going to be helping us take care of our dog (who will be there, in a tux!) and so he could possibly walk her down the aisle, and then he will be sitting in the chairs with our dog towards the outter aisle so if the dog misbehaves, they can make a quick exit without drawing too much attention. Does that make sense?
I’m not too worried about pictures because we have a phenominal photographer who will make it fun and cute, no matter what. Both FI and I agree that it’s not about "even numbers" and following tradition, but really having people who love and support us there, standing up for us, helping us celebrate our special day.
Julianne, best of luck with whatever you decide to do! Just remember that it’s you and the FI’s special day and to surround yourselves with the family and friends who are going to love and support you!! 🙂
Post # 7
we are having 4 guys and 3 gals and i really don’t think the unevenness will be a problem. photogs are creative + i dont think that symmetry is uber crucial to great pics. ive seen alot of pics with uneven parties and doesnt look weird to me at all.
Post # 8
- Wedding: September 2009 - The 19th Century Club
We just recently had a groomsman move out of the country and he’ll be unable to make it back for the wedding. Instead of finding someone else (which we thought about), we decided to keep it uneven – 4 groomsmen and 5 bridesmaids…one guy will just walk down with two girls. We really don’t want any traditional/posed photography, so having an uneven number won’t be a problem for us. But I think even if you want pictures that are more posed, you’ll probably be fine with an uneven group!
Post # 9
Yep, it’s no big deal to have an uneven wedding party now-a-days! Don’t worry about it, I am sure there are enough of other things for you to worry about! LOL
Post # 10
In our wedding party, we have 5 guys and 3 girls. The 3 girls & 2 of the guys are from my side and he only wanted 3 of his guys. We were going to put my best guy friend on my side w/ the ladies to keep it even. Would this be okay or would it be better to put the 5 guys on 1 side and the ladies on the other? We’re not open to adding more attendants to even it out, as we feel the current party represents the people we feel are most important for us to have there.
Post # 11
We’re doing uneven (2 guys, 3 girls – mixed on both sides), and I was recently in a very uneven wedding (EIGHT guys and only 2 girls – and yes, the guys were spread out on both sides). I think the photos are fun, and the whole "even" tradition seems silly.
Post # 12
- Wedding: September 2010 - Jewel Box in Forest Park and Windows on Washington
Things don’t need to be balanced. I was in a wedding like that last year and am planning on having an uneven amount myself. The pictures looked just fine and I plan on mine turning out beautifully. It is not about the number, but who is in the picture and partaking in your special day.