Post # 1
- Wedding: May 2014 - Tennessee
I’m so sorry for the novel, I’m just so excited and I have to get it out somewhere.
So last night, BF and I were sitting on my couch and we’d just gotten through with a Doctor Who mini-marathon. He gets a look on his face and I go “I know that look.” “You do?” “Yep.” “What is this look then?” “You have something good you wanna say, but you’re trying to come up with the best wording so it doesn’t come out wrong.” “Ok… You know this face.” And he sits there quiet for a few more seconds and I’m thinking he’s gonna say something that he read online that was a good topic or something like that.
But he shocks me by asking “When the time comes to buy a certain sparkly something, would you prefer a shorter or longer gap to proposal or a proposal without a ring and we pick it together?” Color me flabbergasted. It turned into a conversation about how we see the next step going. He did ask if it would be weird for him to propose before our first anniversary and even though I am sure he’s the one, I told him I would prefer us to have at least one year of dating under our belts. I gave him the “love someone for all the seasons before committing” rule. We’re at 6 months now.
And we determined that 6 months would be the best “maximum” after I show him the ring to the proposal. So he suggested that on our first anniversary, I show him the rings I like and he’ll propose by 18 months. We also discussed how long the engagement period would be and decided we likely wouldn’t be living together before we are actually married even though we almost do now anyway. We spend pretty much all our spare time together.
It was a very productive conversation and I’m over the moon in such a good mood!! We’ve had another similar conversation recently (that he initiated) but it was all very hypothetical. This was definitely not. 😛
I’ve known since pretty early on (I’d say by our fourth date) that he was it. Something just clicked into place. We discussed on our first date that neither of us were looking for casual dating and we were looking to find someone special. Dating to marry, more or less. But it is nice to know we’re officially on the same page and want the same thing. I won’t put myself on the list just yet though.
And on top of that, it’s Friday. 😀
edited to add: and I’m apparently incapable of unique topic names. 😛 the convo we had recently that I mentioned has one almost identical. Being at work does not allow for creativity I guess.
Post # 3
@Ravenne: WOW! OMG CONGRATS CONGRATS CONGRATS!
Post # 5
Yay, how exciting! Good on you two for maintaining open lines of communication!
Post # 6
Very exciting! Doctor Who brings out the best in people