Post # 1
Hoping you can give me some advice…
My wedding is quickly approaching…3 weeks! I am engaged to the most wonderful man in the world, and could not be happier with our relationship or the way it has gone! However, once I hit the 4 week mark until the wedding, I have been stuck in a rut! It’s like a black cloud has been following me everywhere. I cannot seem to get myself motivated, not only for wedding related things (DIY Bride), but for everyday, normal life things as well.
I don’t want to excerise anymore, eating right has flown out the window, I just seem to be slinking around the house, trying to force myself to do somehting, anything productive, but have this overwhelming sadness following me.
I am an extremely happy person, with a fun, joyful temperament. This is unlike me and I’m feeling as though with the wedding date so near, I can also now see the other big items near: moving to a new state after the wedding, getting my FIRST job after the wedding, leaving friends, family…
I’ve heard about cold feet, but this does not feel just so. I am excited to marry my fiance, I just cannot figure out where this black cloud is coming from, why it is here, and how to get it to go away!
Thank you, bumble brides!!
Post # 3
Hello Jillian and welcome to the bee.
Sorry you are feeling down. I suggest that you take a week off of wedding stuff and just do something that is just for you and not wedding related. Go to the mall or a park and just walk around and do some people watching or go to a movie or read a book. Just try to make sure that whatever you do has absolutely nothing to do with the wedding. I think you are just burnt out on everything wedding.
Post # 4
I second Nori, take a break and relax. It’s easy to get overwhelmed and burned out with all the planning and organizing that goes into a wedding. Good luck!!
Post # 5
Hi hun and welcome to the bee.
I know that feeling. Emotionally and mentally drained? Cry easily and moody? Sometimes you just don’t want to be bothered? You’re like ugh to everything and everyone?
Yea I’ve been going thru that to. I call it preweddng pms. Like seriously. I’m a DIY bride as well. In the beginning you went full speed right? Getting things done quickly and moving on to the next thing. You noticed the closer and closer you got to the wedding, the more you started to slow down. Yea I’m there.
I thought I was losing my mind. I had to realize that I’m not and neither are you. Planning a wedding is extremely stressful and it takes a lot out of you. No train can run on full speed all of the time, they eventually run out of steam. Often times they need to stop and refuel. And that’s what you need. Take a minute for you. Get some rest and relaxation. You’ll feel better after that and be ready to go again.
Post # 6
I read in an article recently how weddings are wonderful celebrations of love and commitment, but people often forget that there can be a bit of sadness surrounding getting married. It is a significant life change and it’s natural that you may have unexpected feelings, especially when the date gets nearer. In addition to getting married soon, you have a lot of significant life changes that will be happening soon too – moving to a new state, your first job, and especially being away from family and friends – it’s a lot of adjustments!