Ungrateful Bride?

posted 2 years ago in Emotional
Post # 2
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2013 - Harbourfront Grand Hall

sanfranciscomrs:  I really resented my BFF after her wedding for all the money I put into her big day, maybe it just takes some time to get over it?  And you’re definitely still owed a thank you card!

Post # 3
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2015

yeah thats so very rude and annoying. Is she clueless? I dont get it either, I sent my bff 200$ of crystal from her registry and many months later I still havent gotten a thank you. In fact, I had to ask if she ever recieved it- because over a month went by and she never even mentioned it (and we talk many times a week…)

Maybe you just give her a pass because “she doesnt know any better”. But how could she not? 

Post # 4
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

sanfranciscomrs:  she’s definately in the wrong!! I mail my girls a thank you card after every appt they go to with me! (That’s too much but its who I am). She could have at least given you a nice thank you card at the rehearsal for everything. I wouldn’t want to talk to her either!!!

Post # 5
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: March 2015

You were owed at least a Thank You, that’s for sure. As for the presents, I know what you mean by you’re not being snobby. I explained to my Bridesmaids that I simply can’t afford to get them anything extra, we have a daughter, car, mortgage etc… our wedding is coming in at under $2000 and to be honest, we are struggling with that. But that’s the difference, I already explained it to them. I guess it also sounds as though she didn’t have a problem with money either. 

I would be hurt if I were you. 

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee

$400??? My wedding dress cost less than that. That is insane for a BM’s dress, then to be shouldered with more expenses to a tune of around 2 grand? Crazytown. That coupled with the no thank you’s would have me distancing myself quite a bit from her. 

(And God help you if she gets pregnant–who knows how much you’d be expected to spend on her baby shower and baby gifts!)

Post # 8
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Worker bee

 I was in a bridal party and the bride never said ‘thanks’. It’s been a year and I’m still a little ‘wha?’

Recently she was talking about how her husband was in a wedding party and they ‘only got cheap sunglasses’

There were two of us from her bridal party at the table- “At least they got something” is what I said… and got a kick on the shin from the other bridesmaid.

Post # 11
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Worker bee

sanfranciscomrs:  

Haha! I kinda blurted it out… I figured I had an opening so I may as well just go for it.

Other than that instance… I haven’t mentioned it, but I still am a little hurt that I didn’t receive a card or a sit down conversation where she actually said ‘thank you for helping me with my wedding’

 

Post # 12
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Blushing bee

sanfranciscomrs:  I experienced something similiar in the sense that the bride never mailed out ANY thank you cards to any of her guests… she did for her baby shower, her bridal shower and to us bridesmaids (thankfully) but not one guest I’ve talked to and gave her money in their cards got anything back in return!

This rubbed me the wrong way because I also spent a lot of money on her wedding things and even though I got a thoughtful gift in return, I’m still miffed about the Thank You cards for the guests.  My mom, dad, sister, her friend, my BF and his cousin all were in attendance and received nothing back… pisses me off so much and we are no longer talking for other reasons but I’m not going to lie and say that this isn’t part of it.  Very selfish indeed!

Post # 13
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Sugar bee

Some pople haven’t been raised to observe the social niceties. I suspect tha tis the case with her.

Post # 14
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

sanfranciscomrs:  ughhh some people are just ridiculous!!! Clearly she is just a selfish person.. I am so sorry you had to deal with her… I have a story that is kinda funny..<br /><br />I was the MOH for my cousin’s wedding. She picked me as her MOH even though I live 5 hours away and we aren’t super close. Right from the getgo it was obvious that she picked me to be MOH cause she didn’t have any close friends. But I accepted and I was greatful to be a part of her day. I spent money on a bachelorette party, the dress, paid for my hair and makeup, made a few trips to visit her and help with wedding stuff, offered to throw her a shower but she didn’t want it, and I even borrowed my moms escalade and drove us ladies around on the wedding day so that she didn’t have to rent a limo/transportation (she has a dinky little car). Never once did I recieve a thank you. Once I even drove down 5 hours to my grandmas house (she is 1 hour away from there) and I was supposed to meet her there to work on wedding stuff… she texted me once I got to my grandmas and said that she wasn’t coming.. I was soooo mad so I kinda just stopped doing stuff for her as everything that I tried to do wasn’t good enough… anyways long story short her wedding was 2 years ago.. and just last weekend we were at another wedding together and I mentioned how helpful the bridesmaids & groomsmen were and she looked me right in the eye and said “uhm yeah, no offence but our bridesmaids and groomsmen were the most useless I’ve ever seen”. Talk about ungrateful hey?! omg. I was soo pissed off lol. The only things that make me feel better is that she had an absolutely awful time at her own wedding cause she had such a terrible attitude, and that because of her attitude on her wedding day I decided not to return the invitation to be my bridesmaid. I am pretty sure she is bitter about that one.. but come on, who wants to share their wedding day with someone who is so rude and selfish? Oh and our present for being a bridesmaid was the pair of shoes that she wanted us to wear. How thoughtful of her. lol

Post # 15
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

I think unless you and your friends freely spend money and know it is not an issue, I really think it is rude to make people buy dresses that cost more than 150.  And then not getting thanked.  Yeah I’d be pissed.  Not sure what I’d do about it though.

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