Post # 1
So my Fiance and I just went out with a friend. He of course is quite extravagent in personality (sometimes I feel like he exaggerates a ton). Anyways, we start talking about our wedding and layout and he acts as if it isn’t good enough and goes on and on about another wedding he attended in Ecuador (where he is from). This wedding was extravagent, black, tie, ice bar, and cost 1.8 million dollars total. Well back on the subject of our wedding and he might as well just had taken a big shit on it. “Why the hell would you have a cocktail hour?” He insisted it would ruin the flow of the wedding and let’s keep comparing it to this 1.8 million dollar wedding. By all means I better find a place now that doesn’t have to flip the space because we need to avoid a cocktail hour.
Sorry, just felt like I needed to vent. I’m in a mood where I just want to cancel the entire thing because I’d rather lose my deposits on everything than in the end fork over $50k for unappreciative guests.
I feel like I’ve done so much for this guy (including taking him to the ER -speeding, running red lights and all- a few nights ago when he was having stomach pain and a full on panic/anxiety attack, while my Fiance was sick with the full on flu at home) and then checking on him every morning and night since then to make sure he was doing ok.
Do you ever feel like I do and just want to call it off and go to the courthouse? Am I alone?
Post # 3
No, but my friends aren’t self absorbed jerks either. I’m pretty blunt with my friends, if he was that rude I’d say something snarky to him. Or not invite him.
Post # 4
He sounds like a real jerk. I can’t imagine thinking, let along saying, things like that about someone’s wedding. Don’t let him get you down.. Your wedding will be lovely.
Post # 5
That guy is a tool! Don’t let him ruin your wedding planning!
Post # 6
Fuck that guy and his horrible attitude.
I, for one, would LOVE to come to your cocktail hour.
And two, he’s still a dick.
Post # 7
He sounds like an ass.
But for real, coctail hours here are like a luxury. Certainly not looked down upon like this “friend” described
Post # 8
Lol thanks gals! I went from almost in tears to laughing. If it were up to me, I wouldn’t invite him as of right now. I know all he would be doing is judging. Like we already don’t have enough to think about on/for our day.
Post # 9
I would start feeding him just total BS about your wedding. “It’s going to be a Cats theme, like the musical. We’re giving the guests lolcat posters for favors, and there will be a tuna bar.” “We’re having a wading pool with penguins and seals out front. I think the kids will love it; oh yeah, we’ve invited all of the kids in town, because we think it will cheer them up to go to a wedding.” “It was expensive, but we managed to secure some elephants for our grand entrance.”
Or more believable BS. “Our theme is love so each guest is going to get a heart-shaped pillow that says ‘I love you,’ when you punch it. Our waitstaff will be dressed up as cupids, but classy cupids…they’ll be wearing suits but have wings and bows and arrows. Maybe they’ll have classy diapers on the outside of their outfits, we can’t decide.”
Because seriously. Screw him. Cocktail hours are amazing, and elegant.
Post # 10
@HappierKate: Yes! YES! YES! You have so got to do this! He sounds like a real dick, and I’m not sure why you would want someone like that at your wedding.
I went through pretty similar stuff when planning my wedding – we’re still about six months away from the actual wedding, and I’ve just flat-out stopped discussing it with people who either don’t need to know, or I know will be negative. Basically, only our bridal party and immediate families know what we have planned, and even then we try to keep it at a need-to-know basis, otherwise they (particularly his family) start getting pushy with their vision of what we should do.
Post # 11
Don’t let that guy get to you…. some people are just going to be that way!
Post # 12
He sounds like an idiot! He doesn’t represent the rest of your guests? Ignore him anod carry on
Post # 13
@HappierKate: Uhmmm I second this. The more outrageous, the better.
Post # 14
He kind of sounds like kind of a pompous douche, sorry!
So many people LOVE cocktail hours and say it’s their favorite part. The $1.8 million bride really missed the boat on that one.
Post # 15
Yes every time I have to talk about it with my mother haha, but never because of guests. Can’t wait until it’s here and the planning is over! 4 months left!!
Post # 16
Lol, I would have just sat there transfixed… lapping up each and every wonderful tidbit he had to offer on ALL the top-drawer Wedding Details.
Then I would have looked at him totally serious like and said…
“Wow what a fabulous idea… I sooo want to do this for our Wedding. YOU ARE RIGHT it is the ONLY way to go (mega stress on the words in caps) . So if you’d be sooo kind to lend us the other 1-3/4 MILLION DOLLARS that we seem to be coming up short… we could certainly get this show on the road !!”
Then *rolls eyes* dramatically.
Ya the other Bees are right… he sounds like a self-centered boor.
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And for the record, most Brides do find Wedding Planning to be stressful… no matter the size of the event.
Even our one-on-one Elopement to a Destination Wedding, followed by an AMAZING Honeymoon has me stressed out at times.