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Doing it on your own isn't easy or as fun as it is made out to be. I am sorry you are feeling frustrated, especially as you are now "under the wire" and I would recommend just communicating your needs for help with him.
My FI made it clear when I started planning that he would only help/provide input on the food and cake flavor. Other than that he didn't have an opinion. While it sounded good at first I do wish he would throw his thoughts into the ring a bit more. I guess that is why he allowed me to hire a wedding planner, that kind of gives him an easy out. ;)
I cant even get FI to "finalize" for the time being gues list....I need to book a venue but If I dont have an approximate guest number I cant pick a place... makes me want to scream! I totally feel your pain, and see my future :(
What's frustrating is he TELLS me he doesn't have a preference when it comes to certain details. Flowers and the cupcakes being the 2 that I can think of right now. But when I go and make an executive decision about something and then show him what I decided on he tells me he doesn't like it. EXCUSE ME I thought you said you didn't care and it was up to me! It's like he's telling me he doesn't mind what I choose just so I do all the work and he can sit back and make the final decision. OMG I just realized he's a genius. HAHAHA.
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Okay so we're getting down to the nitty gritty here and I just want to tie up some loose ends. FI and I are getting an hour of free limo service as part of our wedding package. I know FMIL wants to get a big limo for the whole family so I simply asked my FI if she'd be interested in upgrading our free limo (seats 6) to a big one that can fit everybody. His response via text: "Beats me. Call her and ask her yourself."
This pisses me off for several reasons but the main one is he ALWAYS asks me questions about the tea ceremony we're having before the wedding (I'm Vietnamese, he's Caucasian - we're both pretty clueless about the tea ceremony), but I never respond with "Beats me, go call my mom and ask her yourself."
I feel that he thinks because he's paying for certain parts of the wedding that THAT'S his contribution. I'm sorry, but a wedding is much more than just MONEY. It takes time and research (and TEARS of frustration, am I right ladies?). I'm just feeling super stressed and like I'm planning this by myself sometimes.
Sorry for the rant, just felt like this is the place to do it since I'm sure plenty of ladies go through this too. I'm not really looking for any pseudo psychiatrists trying to give me deep insight on my relationship with my FI. Besides being a lame-wad about wedding details, he's really an awesome person and I can't wait to marry him. We just really want to get to the day and enjoy ourselves.