- 10 years ago
- Wedding: May 2009
Shortly after we got engaged, my FI said, "It’s your day, baby. Do whatever you want."
At first that was music to my ears. I’m very picky and often stubborn about what I want when it comes to decorating and planning. But my retort was, "It’s OUR day, honey. I want you to be involved too."
But now that plans are in full swing, I feel like he is completely uninterested in the process…and at times, it makes me feel like he’s uninterested in the engagement.
I had a meltdown about a week ago after I recalculated our budget and had to reconsider our guest list. I feel like that has left a stigma on the whole thing. He never brings up the wedding anymore… and, now that I’ve recovered from the meltdown, having spoken to my relatives who just planned a successful wedding, it seems like he just doesn’t care.
Am I just being paranoid and insecure? Should I not bring up wedding plans with him for a while and wait to see if he mentions something? My FMIL called him yesterday to talk about the guest list. I guess he’s going to sit down with her to go over their friends and family and who should be cut out. He didn’t ask me to come along… I want us to do this together. What can I do?