- 8 years ago
- Wedding: June 2010
I feel like my Maid/Matron of Honor doesn’t care about my wedding! I know she doesn’t care about it as much as I do and I don’t expect that.
I have stood up in weddings before and I know it can get expensive and cause a great deal of stress on the wedding party members. I didn’t want that for my girls! I picked the color of dress and shoes and let them pick the style of dress and shoes, since everyone’s taste is different (I wanted them to feel comfortable) and this gave them control over the price. I also didn’t want them to have to pay for my shower, since our parents gave us such a generous amount of money to put toward the wedding… We decided against getting expensive cake, flowers, dress etc. so that we could help make things easier for everyone standing up in our wedding. My thought was A happy wedding party should make for a happy wedding day! Anyway most of the bridesmaids have went through the motions and I think are somewhat excited… but my Maid/Matron of Honor has really hurt my feelings lately and I don’t know how to accept things the way they are and be happy.
First when deciding the date for my shower she outright said she was being selfish and said it needed on a given date because that is the only day she had time. Okay whatever..I can deal with that, so she is busy. I respect that. Then she wanted to have it at bar that I don’t like to go to, so I told her I didn’t want it there and suggested some other similar places. Well she ended up having it at a way larger place then nessassary. Which was beyond me because one of the bridesmaids offered to have it at her house (by my Maid/Matron of Honor didn’t want it there). She sent the invitations out late, they said it was hosted only by her not her and the bridesmaids, didn’t include any of the other bridesmaids in the planning, except one the one who set everything up, showed up to the shower after the time it was supposed to start.
She is working the morning of my wedding (and no not because she is broke and is hard up for the money) so she is the only bridesmaid not getting ready with me on my wedding day (and the place I found only charges $20 for hair so my bridesmaids, grandmother, the MOB, MOG and a few other close friends are all goign to be there)! I’m not mad I’m just hurt that she doesn’t want to spend my wedding day with me.. it’s like she is just doing “whats required.. and the min requirement”.
I stood up in her wedding and I live farther away so I took off four days for work and was with her all day on her wedding day. Then she mentioned that our rehersal is kind of late for people that have to work in the morning. If she says this again, can I say “I’m sorry no one else has to work and this time was best for everyone else who had to work on Thursday and/or are traveling up from out of state that day.
I just really hope she shows more interest at our wedding..