Uninvited guest

posted 2 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 2
Member
1105 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

Do you know for sure that she’s planning in bringing him to the wedding?  Maybe she is bringing him along for a vacation and isn’t planning on him attending the wedding. 

Post # 3
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544 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

What type of destination wedding is it and would this guest be coming on her own? If so, do you expect her to stay in a hotel room by herself that is probably just the same cost as having her teenager in the room? I don’t think anyone should be made to go to a destination wedding on their own. Especially if it’s one of those 7 day, all-inclusive packages.  

How old is this teenager? is he old enough to do activities on his own?

Post # 4
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6030 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2014

It’s really inhospitable to expect people to travel to a DW and not be willing to host their minor children. Teenagers aren’t always able to be left behind at home alone. Younger kids are even worse to expect a parent will leave behind. I think you’re antagonizing your guests and should reconsider your no-children rule. It’s simply not fair on them.

Post # 6
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54 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: February 2015

Salal:  You didn’t address any of the other questions that were brought up.<br /><br />1 -What type of destination wedding is this? Resort? Lake Cabin? Mountains? Ski Lodge? etc. Basically, knowing what type would give people a better feel as to the situation.<br /><br />2 – Is it possible she is bringing him and will leave him in the room while attending your wedding? i.e. Is the kid old enough to stay behind?<br /><br />and my own personal question:<br /><br />3- Do you expect people to not bring their kids, even if they aren’t planning on brining them to the wedding?

  • This reply was modified 2 years, 2 months ago by  KristaMay.
Post # 7
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6506 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

Salal:  you can’t tell someone they can’t travel with their child. Just make it clear that the teen is not invited to the ceremony or reception. 

  • This reply was modified 2 years, 2 months ago by  .
Post # 10
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3709 posts
Sugar bee

Salal:  We’re related to one of those, too. When their kids weren’t invited to my 1st daughter’s wedding, they didn’t have the courtesy to even RSVP (and not so much as a congratulatory e-mail, either). We’re glad they didn’t come, because they would have tried to sneak-in their special snowflakes, and antagonize the groom’s family, who complied with the 21+ invitations. When my 2nd daughter invited half as many to her wedding (small venue), we didn’t even waste an invitation on them. Good luck!

Post # 11
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54 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: February 2015

Ugh, I give up, not sure how to fix my post when it gets that HTML code stuck in it. Excuse the giant paragraph. *sigh*

Post # 13
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6890 posts
Busy Beekeeper

Salal:  Do you know for a fact that she is bringing her teenager to the wedding itself?  If so, handle it like any other RSVP of this kind.  Call the person and say that there must have been a miscommunication but that children of guests are not included, and that you will understand if that means she can no longer attend. 

Being that it’s a DW, I imagine it will be too inconvenient and expensive for many people, with or without childcare issues. 

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