- 5 years ago
- Wedding: March 2013
Ok this is kind of hard to “summarize” so I will do my best. My Fiance and I worked VERY hard on our 150 person guest list. It was definitely the biggest headache we’ve had because we both have large families AND a lot of very good friends. We ended up inviting 174 thinking at least 24 wouldn’t make it…..SO far that is not happening and more like 12-15 aren’t making it….So we will pay the $55 extra a person if it’s more than 150. We already budgeted it if we need to….. Here’s the dilemma.
FSIL’s roommate now assumes she is invited to the wedding. The hard part is, we like her, she plays indoor soccer with us on Friday nights, and we have known her a little over a year because…..She is the ex of FI’s cousin (who is a groomsmen). The problem started when Future Sister-In-Law asked her to come to our hotel room and do FSIL’s hair (roommate is a hardresser for a living). WHen I found out she was coming to the hotel room I asked her how much it would be to have her do my sister’s hair as well. She quoted me a MUCH lower price than my hair lady was going to charge my girls. So I asked if she would be ok also doing my sister’s hair and she happily said yes (I knew she would). THen a couple hours later I get a text from Future Sister-In-Law asking if I was inviting roommate to the wedding. I replied that I had been thinking about it all day because how awkward would it be to have her at hotel room and then just all of us get in a limo and say see ya you can’t come? I’ve been debating. Then Future Sister-In-Law kindly reminds me about roommate’s drinking problem and that their cousin will be there….UM ya whoops! The roommate loves to get wasted (shes 25) and cause drama with Fiance and FSIL’s cousin just because she is drunk and thinks she can get away with it. It’s been a huge drama the past few months and FI’s cousin vowed never to be around her with alcohol involved again (their relationship ending wasn’t drama it’s just been her drinking and causing drama since).
So when Future Sister-In-Law reminded me of that issue I told her I would tell roommate that we only need her from 9-11 am and then she could still schedule her regular clients (she normally works Saturdays) because I thought that was a nice was of letting her know she isn’t invited without coming out and saying it. Her reply” Oh It’s ok girl I am still coming to the wedding don’t worry I will schedule the clients on SUnday.” AAARRRRGGGGHHHH Now I feel awful! I feel like she does need to come (FI and I have NEVER seen this drama she causes when she’s drunk, just heard about it numerous times from FSIL).Fiance said if I think she should come than she should. Am I making too big of deal out of this? Or over thinking it? Mind you, we weren’t even able to invite our CURRENT Co-workers to our wedding, because Fiance and I both got new jobs (well he did, I changed to a new school I am a teacher) after the guest list was set and we were already inviting co-workers from our other places. So I feel so stuck. Future Sister-In-Law says if we let her come we are asking for drama for sure. It’s an afternoon wedding so I didn’t think people would be crazy drunk? It’s only beer/wine and signature cocktail bar since it’s at 1:00. I think either Fiance or I should chat w her in person and kindly say it’s not a big drinking event and if she gets really drunk she may be cut off or politely asked to leave and placed in a cab and then invite her? What should I do? WHat would YOU do?