- 9 years ago
Hi Bees! Looking for some advice on the dreaded uninvited guest scenerio :0(
FI and I have planned a small wedding abroad. Our venue is very small and we come from big families and have a fairly big social circle. We thought that we would avoid any drama by only inviting immediate family (parents, brothers/sisters, grandparents, aunts and uncles) and our closest friends to our desination wedding but having a reception at home, inviting all cousins their partners and childeren as well as family friends, and coworkers, shortly after we retun. I guess we have thought wrong and are now faced with cousins who have booked tickets to our desination and just assumed that because their parents were unable to make it that the could go in there place. BTW none of them (there are 4 + partners) every called to see if this was o.k.
Problem #1: Our venue will not accomidate these extra people. It was probably a big oversight on our part, but we knew that all those invited would not be able to make it, so we choose the venue that we LOVED, but that could not hold all the guests invited. In fact when we mentioned that we were getting married abroad those who we thought would not make it RSVP’ed their regrets. I know that this was probably the wrong thing to do but we LOVED the venue and would not be a problem if not for uninvited guests.
Problem #2: I, nor my FI has every met any of partners of cousins. We really want a intimate feel and are upset by the assumptions. In a grop of less than 30, four random ppl. will stand out.
So I guess my question is how do I deal with this? I really, really don’t want to have to accomidate uninvited cousions +1’s, but how am I going to deal with this seeing that they will be in the same small city as us during the wedding week and will see them at other wedding related events that others are thorwing for us?? Any advice will be a great help. Thanks ladies!