(Closed) Uninviting people after STD’s

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

I think the most gracious way to do this would be to contact each one of them individually and let them know that you missed them at the shower, then inform them that due to budgetary constraints your wedding isn’t going to be as large as originally planned so unfortunately you won’t be able to invite them to the festivities. I know this is still considered rude, but it was honestly really rude of them to stand you up after RSVP’ing yes to the shower, not even explain why or send a gift or attempt to contact you in any way. You can only assume they will also do this for the wedding and unless you really want to have a relationship with them in the future I think it’s totally fine to graciously uninvite them. Just make sure you be the bigger person and actually contact them to explain.

Post # 4
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542 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

If you haven’t heard from them in months then just don’t invite them. If they ask you later about it simply say “I had not heard from you in months”

Post # 5
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2289 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

@Garnety: I agree. I don’t think anything needs to be said. If you haven’t heard from them in so long and they blew off your shower without so much as a how do you do, I don’t think they’ll miss an invite to the wedding.

Post # 6
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2125 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I’m dealing with something similar. I verbally invited some gals I worked with, but then was laid off 6 months ago and never heard from them again. I still had every intention of inviting them because 1) they both got married while I worked with them and I attended their showers/receptions, etc and 2) I dont’ have alot of girlfriends anymore. But then I tried to contact them to get their addresses so I could send them an STD and they didn’t even respond. I kinda feel like they owe me a gift, which is bad I know….but why wast money inviting people who don’t seem to give a real hoot about you.

Post # 8
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3375 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I just wouldn’t invite them. What if they RSVP yes to your wedding and don’t show?

Post # 9
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548 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

Ordinarily I’d say one can’t really not invite people after sending an STD but in this case I think you’re good to go.  Can’t believe they blew off your shower after RSVPing yes–that is ridic. 

Post # 10
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428 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

@moderndaisy: 

“I think the most gracious way to do this would be to contact each one of them individually and let them know that you missed them at the shower, then inform them that due to budgetary constraints your wedding isn’t going to be as large as originally planned so unfortunately you won’t be able to invite them to the festivities. I know this is still considered rude, but it was honestly really rude of them to stand you up after RSVP’ing yes to the shower, not even explain why or send a gift or attempt to contact you in any way. You can only assume they will also do this for the wedding and unless you really want to have a relationship with them in the future I think it’s totally fine to graciously uninvite them. Just make sure you be the bigger person and actually contact them to explain.”

 I agree. This seems like a polite and guilt-free way of uninviting them.

Bottom line is they are a waste of a good seat at your wedding. I too, would not appreciate someone RSVPing and not show up. If they didn’t show up for the shower, chances are they wouldn’t show up for the wedding after RSVPing too.

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