(Closed) Uninviting someone that got an accidental invite

posted 9 years ago in Parties
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

If you uninvite her, you risk ruining that relationship big time. Can you revise your bach party so you aren’t embarrassed by any of the activities?

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I think at this point she should just stay on the invite list. Unfortunately the BM’s let it slip and now she knows there is a plan to have one. Even if it hadn’t slipped to her, wouldn’t she have wondered why a bachelorette never happened? Or does she really care that little about the wedding events (and if so that sucks!). To avoid family drama (and I think the fact she is family makes this harder) and any awkward situations at the wedding or any last minute get togethers, you should just invite her.

 You could always hint to her by saying "hey – I know bachelorette parties arent really your thing so don’t feel obligated to be there. I’ll understand if you’d rather not". Maybe she’ll decline on her own.

Post # 5
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Newbee
  • Wedding: June 2009

i think its a little late to uninvite your sister considering she is a bridesmaid.  It will not only ruin your relationship but may cause a lot of family drama.  Maybe you should just explain to her the theme of hte bacelorette party so she has a heads up and won’t be suprised or feel awkard about hte situation. wish you the best of luck and a happy  marriage and wedding!

Post # 6
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2012

I think you need to let it be. Would she ruin your bachelorette to have her in the background? I think uninviting her will just further confirm that you guys aren’t that close & it will probably just hurt her feelings. Perhaps she won’t want to come anyway because it’s out of her element… especially if you don’t have an open friendship like you have with your other BMs?
 

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

Yeah I agree with the hive on this one – you can’t really uninvite her. BUT, if you think she’ll be uncomfortable with the sex stuff you can have one of your BMs send out an email that makes the party sound raunchier than it may actually be. That might be enough to totally put her off, and then you are off the hook because your girls are throwing it for you and you don’t have anything to do with it. I’m thinking something along the lines of "So, who is making the penis cookies, who is buying the inflatable penis, and who is hiring the stripper?"

My friend’s sister actually did this for her bachelorette and it was just so gross. Funny for about 5 seconds but the novelty wore off pretty quick. Then came the stripper. Gross. I’m no prude mind you but it was even too much for me to handle after a while!

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2018

what is the age difference for you and your sister? my sister is 4 years younger and sex related things used to be awkward but once we got over it she could ask me things and I think she was glad to have a big sister. Now she is like one of my girlfriends.

Post # 9
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

I think that, as was said, for the sake of the relationship, I would keep her on the invite list.  She might be feeling the exact way you do in the reverse and ultimately not come…?

Post # 11
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: March 2010 - Calamigos Ranch

You can’t uninvite her, sorry! She might decide not to come, anyway, if she feels the same way you do.

Post # 12
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

once invited you cannot uninvite

Post # 13
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2009

if she is in your wedding party, there is no good way to not include her or lie to her. If you didn’t want her to be a part of your wedding party activities, then you should not have included her in your wedding party, whether or not you didn’t want to choose between your other friends.

Post # 14
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2009

You made her your MOH and you’re excluding her from wedding party activities? I can’t hold this in–that’s really messed up!  I’m seriously stunned.  It would be one this if you did something low-key with just a few of your BMs and didn’t invite her to that but to have a bachelorette party and refer to it as such and then not invite a member of the wedding party is terribly rude.  I hope that in time you and your sister are able to appreciate each others’ different personalities and become closer.  That doesn’t happen unless you take some risks and open yourself up to the other person though and that has to go both ways.  Weddings have a tendency to bring people closer or drive them apart–which one do you really want with your sister?

Post # 15
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2009

From another perspective, I am that quiet, reserved older sister to a wilder, more outgoing little sister.  I would not enjoy a traditional bachelorette party, so I didn’t have one before my wedding.  My little sister would like to have one, so as her BM, I am trying to plan something SHE wants.  And yeah, that means we’re going out to bars and I’ll probably buy her all the bachelorette paraphenelia that goes with it.  Your sister might not be comfortable with the traditional party like you are, but maybe she is trying to suck it up for one night so she can be supportive of her sister.  I think that alone is reason enough to leave her on the invite list.  Plus she might even surprise you and really loosen up at the party!

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